“I asked my husband, ‘Are we going for option A or option B tonight?'” My group of girlfriends burst into laughter when one of our crew described the language she and her husband have for their sex life. She added, “It wasn’t the hot foreplay either of us was looking for, but we’re more about efficiency these days.” We all laughed again and agreed. Whether you’ve been married a few years or a few decades, you likely know what it feels like to fall into a predictable sexual routine. The sexual repertoire you share is like muscle memory and romance memory all tied into one, leaving you with a connection that is good but not quite the experience you know is possible. Being content has its place, but there is also value in discovering how to turn your husband on and amp up your sex life.
Imagine how excited your husband will be to know you’re thinking about him and wanting your physical relationship to grow. You’ll be up for wife of the year. Here are 3 ideas for how to turn your husband on.
1. Build anticipation.
If you want to turn your husband on, it’s good to start long before sex. As his wife, your words are powerful. Take the time to send him a text or write him a note and place it in his lunchbox, laptop bag, backpack, or car. It can be as simple as, “Sex tonight?” or, “Why don’t we put the kids to bed early tonight?”
And don’t underestimate the power of your touch to turn your husband on and build anticipation. Before he walks out the door in the morning, run your fingers gently across his back, waist, or neck. Give him a big hug, kiss him, and wink at him. You could say, “Maybe later we could…” and then just give him a kiss. He’ll be thinking about you all day.
Planning a fun date also builds sexual anticipation. You will fuel passion by pouring into your friendship, making the sexual connection later on even more intense.
2. Take your time.
One of the best tips for how to turn your husband on is when you do finally lock the bedroom door, take your time. This builds on the anticipation you created throughout the day. Light a candle and let him watch you undress. Help him undress and then make the most of foreplay. Take a moment to breathe and just look into each other’s eyes. Wives can easily assume a husband is interested only in the sexual act itself, but many husbands will admit that foreplay is just as exciting.
Turn your husband on by showing confidence. Let him see your body and leave a dim light on. Trust us, he’s not seeing all of the flaws you perceive. He’s just thrilled that you are into him, so don’t rush things.
3. Change positions.
If you’re like many married couples, you rely upon one—maybe two—positions when you have sex. You can turn your husband on by switching things up. It doesn’t mean the new way has to be the permanent way. You might discover that the reason you keep resorting to “option A,” like my friend did, is because it is what you both enjoy most. But trying something different shows trust, vulnerability, and desire, and all of those are turn-ons for your husband.
It just takes a little trial and error, to find other positions that the two of you find irresistible. Within the exclusivity of marriage, a husband and a wife should never stop nurturing their sexual connection or having fun. Finding ways to turn your husband on strengthens your marriage.
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