7 Ways to Raise Strong Kids


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Think about the princess movies: Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, The Little Mermaid. Where’s the mom in those films? Nowhere to be found! In real life, a mom’s influence is powerful. Quite simply, when the going gets tough for our children, we can make the difference between their giving up, or going on. That message comes across strongly in the movie Soul Surfer, where the mom pours her heart and soul into her child after the girl has a devastating accident. It’s a true story of Bethany Hamilton. Surfing was her passion. Then, one day as a teenager, a 14-foot tiger shark attacked her and almost killed her. Her life was saved, but she lost her arm.

Well before the accident, her mother had laid a foundation by teaching her to think through the difference between right and wrong. Our children will face adversity in life. Will they merely survive the challenges or will they thrive in spite of them? Here are 7 things a mom can do to raise up a child to be strong.

1. Give them a foundation of faith.

Children who are confident in a set of core beliefs that don’t change over time are better equipped to navigate an ever-changing world. Help them to develop a relationship with God and to learn that they can depend on him even in the toughest circumstances.

2. Let them take risks.

You may know that she’ll never get the lead in the school play, or that he won’t make the baseball team, but parents who want to raise up a child to be strong will let them get out there and live, knowing that it won’t always go well. If you steer your child away from those experiences that you know probably won’t be “successful,” you rob them of the chance to learn first-hand how to handle disappointment and re-group for the next big thing.

3. Let them work for it.

Whatever it is they desire, make sure they are required to put forth a little effort and endure some type of sacrifice to get it. Whether it’s giving up free time to earn extra money for a purchase, or putting in extra training to make the cross country team, work yields rewards. The sooner your children internalize this truth, the better equipped they’ll be to overcome obstacles and achieve.

4. Share lessons from your own life.

Whether it’s a challenge you had to overcome in school or your professional life, your own stories of rising to the occasion will be a source of inspiration for your kids. As they grow older, you may be able to share with them about struggles you’re currently facing, and which life tools—like faith, hard work, and optimism—are getting you through.

5. Don’t let them wallow.

Sometimes people will treat your children unfairly, or things beyond their control will go wrong. Help them learn to cry it out or talk it out—and then move on. Continuing to re-live the slight will only serve to keep them trapped and helpless. Teach your kids to forgive, let it go, learn from it, and figure out another plan.

6. Don’t let them play the victim.

We’re all tempted at some time to draw attention away from our own shortcomings by putting the focus on how others contributed to your failure. Don’t blame the teacher for making the test so hard. Instead, ask what you could have done to be better prepared. Don’t blame the loss on a bad call by the referee. Instead, think about scoring opportunities that you didn’t cash in on, and ways you can improve. It’s all about perspective.

7. Celebrate the victories.

The development of your kids’ character and toughness will often take place in moments where things don’t go as planned. It may take weeks, months or years for them to recognize how they grew and what they learned, but talk about it and celebrate those strides just like you do the obvious wins.

Tell us! What are you doing to instill strength into your kids?

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