8 Things All Moms Feel

feelings all moms have

I was sitting at a stoplight away from home on business one day when my children were young, and I found myself fantasizing about a life alone in an apartment in that city. One where I didn’t have to pick up cheerios off the floor, one that was modern and easy. It caught me off guard and I was ashamed of myself for dreaming about leaving my family and living alone.

A few minutes later, I realized that I didn’t really want to run away. I was just overwhelmed and tired of the constant demands of being a mother of three small children. Being a good parent doesn’t always mean feeling great about it. Sometimes our thoughts and emotions get the better of us. Below are some common negative feelings all moms have and ways to handle them.

1. Embarrassment by your child’s behavior.

At some point, your child will throw a tantrum in public, get caught stealing, tell everyone in the church to pray for you because you’re sad you found a gray hair, or ask loudly about the man with a very large purple birthmark. Yes, all of these things happened to me. Don’t worry, you’ll have a chance to return the favor one day when they’re teenagers and everything you do embarrasses them.

2. Fear you will mess them up for life.

None of us do everything right but God has a plan. {Tweet This}  If you pursue parenting with His guidance, you should not fear. What you are doing right is making a bigger impact than what you are doing wrong.

3. Guilt.

There is always something to feel guilty about. Let go of perfection. It robs you of joy and connectedness.

4. Ashamed for not always feeling tender toward your child.

Sometimes parenting comes with contention and conflict. This can make it difficult to feel loving toward them. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them.

5. Wanting to escape.

There used to be a bubble bath slogan for Calgon that said, “Calgon, take me away!” It showed an overwhelmed mom luxuriating in the tub after a hectic day. Give yourself a mini vacation for an hour or a couple of days from time to time.

6. Not knowing how to handle a situation.

It’s okay to tell your child that you don’t know what to do about something and that you need a few minutes or a day to think about it and get back to them. You don’t always have the answers right away.

7. Want to do what’s best for you and not what’s best for them.

It’s tempting to want to finish their homework for them so they’ll just get to bed in time for you to watch The Bachelor. And occasionally you’ll do things like that. We all do.

8. Too tired for sex.

After the demands and responsibilities of a full day, it’s tough to want sex. Your mind and body are spent.

These are just a few of the things all moms feel. Tell us: How have you handled experiencing these feelings?


  • BjH

    It comforts me to know that other moms have had the feelings I have had on occasion over the last few years.
    My kids are adopted and they are 6 years old and 71/2 years old. We adopted them at 18 months and 2 years old. I love them as my own.
    I have found myself, at times, doubting that I am the best choice for them as their mother. I have even thought maybe God had a plan when he didn’t allow us to have biological children and maybe they were supposed to be with someone else. I doubt things I do and things I say almost on a daily basis. I’m so scared I’m going to do something or say something that impacts them in a negative way for life. My husband travels during the week for his job and is only home on weekends so the majority of parenting and ALL responsibilities are on me. I’m basically a single mom during the week. He is great when he’s home but that’s only 2 days on weekends.
    I find myself occasionally day dreaming about my husband and I traveling with no children. And, of course, the guilt after this drives me crazy too.
    It helps to know that it’s normal because people typically don’t share those feelings for fear of judgment.
    I hope I didn’t just over share. LOL. 🙂

    • LorineO

      O I can relate! Most of the time I forget my son is adopted, until I judge myself (or my husband) as unworthy and then I doubt that our home is the best place for him to thrive. Usually I recognize that as the devil’s voice and pray for trust in God’s power to work through even our failures. So thanks for this topic, Cyndi, and thanks for your share, BjH!

    • Jackie

      You are an amazing mom if you find yourself worrying about what is best for your kids. Not enough people adopt and you are awesome for giving them love. When all else fails love always wins.

  • tonyase



    Boy can I relate! I only have 2 boys, but sometimes (or frequently), it really feels like I’m in charge of a whole army of boys. Thanks for this list.

  • Jackie

    This is all true. I definitely understand fantasizing about living alone. I more so find myself remembering my single days where all I could do was focus on regular ministry. In China they believe in raising kids together- with the help of other relatives. The moms there are apparently never too overwhelmed. I wonder what we could do differently in the US.