It seems that no one today has time to ponder. We pack more into a day than ever before in history. But the reality is that we do still have time. Whenever I pitch the complaint to my husband that I just don’t have the time to do something, he swats it right back with, “Everyone has time, and so do you. You are just not making this a priority for your time.” Ouch. The point is, we do have time to ponder; we just use that time for other things. Pondering takes time, sometimes lots of it. It also takes avoiding these 9 things that get in the way of pondering, and finding the 2 Keys to Pondering.
1. The phone. I chat with friends endlessly, especially in the car, when I could just ponder each of my children while I drive.
2. The computer. I shop online because I get way too many e-mails about great sales, research online because Google has the answer to all my questions. (Of course, Google was important when I was researching my daughter’s symptoms, but it is a distraction if I am Googling for hours without a commendable reason.)
3. Social media. I use Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest because it is so fun to celebrate and comment on my friends’ pictures and posts.
4. Volunteer over commitment. I want to “be there,” involved with every child and all their activities. But multiple children mean multiple opportunities to volunteer and it’s so hard to say no.
5. Competitive leisure sports. Participating in leagues that are ambitious can create pressure to spend more than the average amount of time playing.
6. Working out. Fitness demands that we exercise for hours each week but not hours each day. Hours spent exercising every day may be an indicator that we have become slaves to vanity.
7. Work. The bills must be paid, but sometimes we work more than we need to because we like it, it builds our sense of accomplishment, or we covet stuff and desire money to spend.
8. Shopping. We all want to look as best we can, but looking fashionable takes time and effort whether you are on a budget or not.
9. Socializing. Parties, clubs, Bunko, and bridge. Birthday lunches, work dinners, old friends and new. The socialite has a lot to keep up with and do.
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