Are You Too Negative with Your Kids?
“What did I do wrong now?” That’s what my 7-year-old son asked me last week after I had called out his name in an exasperated voice. And, sure, he does a lot of stuff “wrong”– teasing his sister, rolling his peas off the table, and leaving his clothes all over the house. But he also does a lot of things right; he asks how I’m feeling when I’m sick, he gets dressed quickly on school days, and knows just the right time to give an extra hug.
Unfortunately, I’ve fallen into the habit of zeroing in on his shortcomings, almost expecting him to mess up. In this week’s Learn A Latte, iSpecialist Dr. Greg Smalley explains why negative expectations like mine are so harmful and unfair to our kids and why, to be a good mom, we need to learn the best way to understand our children.
So accentuate the positive today with this fun way to “catch” your kids doing what’s right.