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5 Ways to Keep Perspective in Your Marriage

Posted on March 11, 2013 by iMOM

How good are you at looking at the big picture in your marriage? Would you keep things in perspective even if your husband gave your infant daughter an unusual haircut? Here’s the mom of that baby with her true story:

Bethany arrived in this world with a head full of hair. I mean, this kid looked like she had a cat sitting on her head. Slowly she started balding on one side only. There was no reason for it. She didn’t sleep on one side; she didn’t rub her head. My husband and I agreed that she looked ridiculous and a bow could only distract so much, so I said, “We need to trim her hair.”

The next day he had the baby while I was at work when I received a photo of my child with her head shaved.

I remember calling my husband confused. Maybe the photo was blurry and her hair was really there? While I waited for him to pick up I started thinking, We’re struggling to make his tuition. The baby took no more than 10 ounces of milk yesterday. The car needs new brakes. Did he really shave her head?

My husband answered…joyfully. Poor thing had no idea the offense he committed. I very calmly asked why he chose to shave her head over just snipping a couple inches with the scissors?

His answer: “You said we could trim her hair and that’s how I trim my hair!”

Bless him. His heart was in the right place.

He started sensing I wasn’t overjoyed, then innocently asked if I was upset. Of all the things that I am praying through right now, Beth’s hair isn’t even in the top twenty.

“No honey, I’m not mad. This is the least of my worries.”

So back to that question. How are you at keeping things in perspective in your marriage?

End your day: Talking with your child

What do you think it means to look at the big picture?

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http://www.facebook.com/patty.gitter Patty Gitter

this was so something I needed to read this morning. Without even being aware of it, I’m awfully hard on my husband. He’s an amazing father and I struggle daily with “just because he does it different doesn’t mean he does it wrong”. It was hard after we had our son 2 years ago and it’s more of a struggle now that we have our daughter too.

There is no way I would have been as nice to my husband in the hair cut circumstance, but in the future I pray that I hear this story in my head and bring more perspective to my marriage. Thank you for posting this great story!
Shawn Kuczenski

My 9 year old daughter has special needs and also alopecia areota. A few years ago, she had a huge bald spot on her head. Did it bother her? Not at all! So I figured…why should I let it bother me? Her hair did grow back, but someday she might lose all of her hair. I told my family that if that happens, I will shave my head as well. I think hair is overrated and I hate the time it takes to do it! Pretty scarfs just might be in our future!!