Fighting the Lies We Live By

lies we live by

Lies have a really sneaky way of disguising themselves as truth. Once we hear a lie in our head enough times, it begins to convince us that it is right! Then we unknowingly accrue a list of lies we live by. Don’t believe me? Think about a few of these lies we live by, or at least I live by and I am fighting not to live by!

Lie #1: “No one notices what I do

Truth: “You are LOVED”

As moms, we are the ones finishing laundry at 2 a.m. to make sure our son has a clean uniform for practice. We are the ones standing in front of a sink stacked high with dirty dishes two and three times a day. And we are the ones driving a carpool of screaming kids across town even when we have a temperature of 102 degrees. Constantly putting others first without any sign of appreciation is overwhelming. But what I’ve had to come to understand is that even though my kids don’t say thank you on a daily basis, I can always find other ways that I am loved and appreciated by them.

Lie #2: “I don’t have enough time or energy

Truth: “You are RESOURCEFUL”

Lots of times, I face problems that seem to have no solution. There are times when the kids need to be in three different places at once and I’m racking my brain for ways to work it all out without guilt. Then there are times when I have a deadline for a project, and one of the kids starts throwing up. In these moments, I have learned that I can usually find a way if I pray rather than panic. It may mean that I have to be creative and resourceful. Maybe that means calling a friend to help drive, or maybe it means taking a 20-minute power nap so that I have the energy to push through and keep working.

Lie #3: “I’m going to fail

Truth: “You are ABLE”

Every day, there are millions of moments I can fail. I can miss an opportunity to teach my child a lesson that can save them pain. I can let my husband down by overcommitting and leaving no time for him. But what I have learned is that God works all things for his good. That means my mistakes can have a purpose. Once I stop focusing fearfully on the ways I could mess up, I am free to focus on the ways God can use me to do great things!

Lie #4: “My life is spinning out of control

Truth: “You are STRONG”

If you’re at all like me, I’m sure you’re no stranger to the craziness of life. When things start flying off in a million different directions, I immediately feel insecure and out of control. But rather than control things in vain, I’ve learned that the best way to handle these moments is to step back, take a deep breath, and calmly remind myself that God is in control and He does not give us more than we can handle. So I am stronger than I think and I can do this!

Lie #5: “I don’t deserve that

Truth: “You are WORTHY”

When someone compliments me or tells me that I’m doing a good job, my first reaction is to say something like, “Oh, well you should see what my kitchen looks like right now.” But the reason I respond this way and push away praise is that I feel that I don’t deserve it because I know how flawed I am. At some point, we have to realize that we DO deserve it! We have to realize that we are worthy of love and admiration and respect. {Tweet This} So the next time you are complimented, allow yourself to glow for just a minute. Bask in the praise that you deserve. Consider it a little gift of encouragement from an awesome God who really sees what you do, even if your kids don’t!

I could go on, but I would rather know what lies do you live by?


  • Brittany Tibbett

    I am concerned to see the commonly misused false “verse” used in #4 “He does not give us more than we can handle.” This is not what God teaches or shows us in the Bible and we must be careful because it’s exactly what today’s self-focused society tries to put on us. Of course God gives us more than we can handle: He wants us to rely on Him for our source of strength, love and wisdom. God lets life happen to us so that when we say, “I can’t do this by myself!”, we turn to Him and surrender. Then we find Him waiting to supply unending streams of power, strength, guidance and love. I learned to watch out for this “twisted scripture” – which is not in the Bible – a long time ago and have tried to help people understand the Truth about it ever since.

    • Mary Miller Hayes

      I agree with you Brittany. This is a new “nugget” i have gleaned from my time in Bible study. Now I almost look forward to being in situations “I can’t handle” as I know it will bring me closer to the Lord.

    • Ginette

      Completely agree! My daily schedule is full of “more than I can handle” challenges. I’ve learned that this provides great motivation to rely on Him, to walk with Him in every area of my life (including being a mom). He gives us more than we can handle so that we may rest in the assurance that we can do ALL things through His power that works within us.

    • experiencer1

      I agree entirely and that one line stood out to me as well before I read the comments. I have triplets and I absolutely have experienced countless “more than I can handle” moments. It’s in those moments that I can try on my own, often bringing distruction to myself and/oror others, or depend on God to be my source of strength. Having triplets people have often said to me, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle” and when the conversation allows, I respectfully share that I believe He absolutely allows us to be in situations that we can’t handle well alone so that we will draw closer to Him.

  • Ann-Morgan

    I really really appreciated this article. I often hear those lies echoing in my head (until I say them out loud and realize how ridiculous they sound when exposed to the light!), and I like the way you took each one and replaced it with a “You are” (or an “I am” statement). Very encouraging! I do understand and agree with the “God won’t give you more than you can handle” comment. There are a lot of people in incredibly overwhelming circumstances, but that’s when the great I AM comes into play…not who I am or how strong I can be, but how strong my trustworthy Lord is!! He will carry me through whatever the circumstances may be as I lean into and trust in Him.
    iMom folks: thanks for all you do to encourage moms every day!! So grateful for your wisdom!