How to Find Your Purpose in Parenting


how to find your purpose

I know many of you can’t picture this day, but it will come. The day you drop your child off at college. When we dropped off my oldest child at her dorm and drove away, my husband was in tears. I couldn’t cry because I was thinking of the 500 things I wanted to make sure she knew! I kept asking myself, Is she ready to stand on her own?

That day changed my thinking in how I would parent the children I still had at home. It made me zero in on my purpose in parenting, to help my children develop a solid faith that would enable them to make wise choices.

What is the purpose for your parenting? If you don’t know, we want to show you how to find your purpose… and believe me, having a clear purpose will help you with so many aspects of your job as a mom.

To get started, you’ll need to answer these three questions: What are your core beliefs? What is your goal for your children? What is your purpose as a mother and how will you work it to reach your goal? Every mom will answer these questions differently. For me, the answers to those questions started with a passion, purpose, and plan—that was the core from which all of my parenting decisions came. Having that clarity helped me define my purpose in parenting.

Here is how I described the process in my book, The Passionate Mom.

As a mom, if you are passionate about your children, then you must have a purpose for your parenting. {Tweet This} What core values would you like to instill in your child? What goal would you like to reach as a parent? If you can answer these questions, you can define your purpose—the reason you exist as a parent—and you can determine to fulfill it.

Find your purpose. Then and only then, with the target of where you are going clearly in sight, can you begin the plan for your children.

Devise a plan. A plan, based on your purpose, can look a thousand different ways for a thousand different moms, but here is how I tried to keep it a focused goal in my life with five very different little personalities.

My purpose is to do all I can to help my children grow in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man.

My original goal included four areas that I wanted to watch for each child. I added a fifth.

  1. Wisdom: My child should be growing in knowledge and making good choices
  2. Physical: My child should be growing in size, strength, and health.
  3. Spiritual: My child should have a faith, independent of mine, by the time he or she is ready to leave home.
  4. Relational: My child should show love for others including family and friends.
  5. Emotional: My child should understand his or her temperament and possess an understanding of self.

When I assessed each of my children, I pondered how they were growing: in wisdom, physically, spiritually, relationally, and emotionally. I wanted them to grow in all areas, but as they did, I realized that each had a natural bent in certain areas, and in those, they grew naturally. The areas that were less natural to them needed more motivation and encouragement from me.

How would you describe your purpose in parenting?

Comments


  • Rachel Slunaker

    I love this article! As an outside-the-house working mom, so often I’m happy just to make it through the day let alone have purpose and direction for the ultimate goal of releasing these precious beings into the world.