Is Your Daughter Afraid to Come to You With These Questions Kids Ask?

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I have a 13-year-old daughter. We can talk about most things, but I’m sure there are some things she feels at least a little uncomfortable bringing up. What about you? Were you able to ask your mom anything? What about your daughter—is she comfortable asking you just about anything? Even if you’re really close with her, there still might be some questions she’s afraid to bring up. Or, maybe she’s tired of asking you because of the way you react.

So take a look at these 15 Questions Your Daughter’s Afraid to Ask and consider if it’s time to go to her before she finds her answers elsewhere – from her friends or the Internet.

These questions kids ask cover a lot of areas, but many of them arise during adolescence and into the teen years. Check off the ones your daughter has discussed with you, then consider whether she’s afraid to bring up the others or just not concerned about them. If you’re unsure, try to casually bring them up in conversation.

  1. How far should I go with a boy?
  2. Can I come to you if I go too far with a boy?
  3. Is it normal to not like my body?
  4. Is it okay if I have doubts about God?
  5. Why does God let bad things happen?
  6. What is pornography?
  7. What kind of girls do boys like the most?
  8. Is it normal for me to want to try cigarettes or drink?
  9. Is it normal for me to have bad thoughts sometimes?
  10. Why don’t we just hang out more?
  11. Why do you seem stressed all of the time?
  12. Why can’t our family be different?
  13. Why do you and dad argue so much?
  14. Will you and dad ever get divorced?
  15. Do you really love me the way I am?

(Here’s how to get more discussions going with your daughter. Check out our TALK Conversation Starters.)

Let’s Talk: What other questions might daughters be afraid to ask their moms?


  • Emily

    Can you please give us the answers to these questions?!?! 😉

    • Emily, we think that’s a great idea. Give us a bit of time and we’ll try to furnish the answers too. 🙂

  • Fantastic list. Thank you for being such a good back up to it’s as we raise these small people.

    • Thanks for the kind words, Debi!

  • Sandra

    This is a great start … and I just wanted to say that answers to #1- #9 are found right in the Holy Bible! (Hint: begin reading the book of Proverbs with your teens – there’s a chapter for every day of the month! ) The rest of the questions deserve honest answers without judgement on the child! We’ve been where they are; but they haven’t been where we are! They can tell when we’re evasive, lying, overly protective, non-trusting and conditional in our love to them. Thanks for all the conversation starters here on iMom!! : )

    • mommy2angels

      I really don’t understand how anyone thinks those answers are found in the Bible. I’m a Christian and believe fully in the Bible, but I disagree that these are answered there (although I do think it would be a good opportunity to use the scriptures in the discussion).

  • Tracy Lea Abshier

    Please talk to your children about sexual assault and what that means 1 in 4 children ages 9 to 18 are assaulted in this country every year. My family is going thru this now and my 13 yr old daughter kept it a secret for a year. She told friend who also didnt tell anyone please tell your children that those secrets cause more harm when not told.Talk to your sons about what no means and what body language means

    • Sharon

      Thank you so much for this. I have one just entering the teen years and want them equipped for this world realities. I will definitely talk to them about this!

  • Very interesting list of questions. Most of the answers seem to be questions too.
    – are you the kind of person that would be attractive to the kind of spouse you want? (who cares about what most men want? We seek one guy to whom we will commit)
    – how do you relieve stress in your life? how do you reconcile being so stressed and having faith in a God who asks us to rest?
    – why are you still married? What made you decide to reconcile after the last What are you and dad going to do to fight less? What is so valuable about marriage if all I see is challenge?

    Emily, I think the answer you and I most need is just to listen to our kids as they grapple with these issues. They have probably heard enough top down instructions. Might “love” be spelled L.I.S.T.E.N.?

  • Ginger

    iMom is definitely the best place for parenting advice. I frequent your articles more often than I do any other website. I print out almost every download I come across, and I always look to the comments section for more advice from other moms. Thank you for being there for Christian moms, and their children! You don’t know how valuable you are! Raising tiny humans is soooo hard, but you (along with Jesus) give me HOPE that I CAN do this!!!