The romance bug has bitten my tween daughter. She’s noticing boys. I suppose this day had to come at some point! So instead of letting it take its course without me, I’m diving into her romance world. Because if I stay familiar with what’s going on, I can legitimately give input. Like, “So, it’s a little odd that that character would be so heartbroken because that guy didn’t talk to her when she’s only known him for a few days, isn’t it?” Or, “Now that’s the kind of guy who knows how to treat a girl…”
By being a part of the romance world (and sharing the experiences I remember from when I was her age), instead of condemning it, I can help counter the fantasy images that could put my daughter at risk for making bad relationship choices later. So enter your daughter’s romance world and your son’s too, for that matter. Here’s how to handle a boy crazy girl.
Before you jump in with advice or comments, watch and wait. Don’t jump at the first sign that your child is moving into another stage. Take things in so that you can assess what your first move should be.
Don’t embarrass her.
This is not the time to make jokes about your daughter being “in love.” Treat her and her feelings with respect. Teasing will only make her feel like she needs to pursue this new interest in secret.
This is not the time to make jokes about your daughter being ‘in love.’ Treat her and her feelings with respect.
Who is the big thing now in the movies, books, and TV shows your daughter enjoys? Find out what you can about her areas of interest. Some may be harmless, but others might require you to consider talking to your daughter about her choices.
Not many kids want their mom to pull them aside to have “a talk” about romance. Instead, try to interject your opinions and comments casually.
You may want to go into rescue mode if you discover your daughter is falling for the bad boys. But before you panic, realize that many girls go through phases. Yes, let her know why you don’t think this or that guy is good boyfriend material, but be careful not to come down hard on her.
Tell us! What suggestions do you have in dealing with the topic of the opposite sex with your kids?