- Lauren Dungy
- Shaunti Feldhahn
- Tim and Darcy Kimmel
- Betsy Landers
- Dr. Walt Larimore
- Mark Merrill
- Joanne Miller
- Dr. Gary J. Oliver
- Kathy Peel
- Dr. Greg Smalley
- Dr. Scott Turansky
- Jill Savage
Articles by Dr. Gary J. Oliver
- Words That Could Save Your Marriage
- What kind of "Angry Mom" are you?
- What Can I Do About My Anger?
- Six Myths About Men
- Real Love Involves Conflict and Anger
- Parental Power and Teens
- Love and Loss
- Losing my Valentine
- Keys to Parenting an Introvert
- Keys to Parenting an Extrovert
- Intimacy: What Is It?
- Intimacy: Developing Sexual Intimacy
- How to Master Worry
- How to Identify the Stressors in Your Life
- How to Accept a Child Who's Different
- How Close Are You to Losing It?
- How Angry is Your Child?
- Giving the gift of time
- Don't Ignore Your Anger
- Cultivating Intimacy
- Cultivating Healthy Anger in Your Marriage
- Constructive Steps for Dealing With Anger
- Bruce Moose and the What-Ifs
- Beyond Forgiveness -- Trust and Intimacy
- Be a Student of Your Child
- At The End, It's Relationships That Matter Most
- Are You Out of Control?
- Are you floating on the surface or diving deep in your marriage?
- Advice for Moms in the Dating World
- 7 Simple Steps Through Conflict To Intimacy
- 7 Important Reasons for Understanding Anger
- 6 Ways to Fall Out of Love with Your Husband
- 4 Ways to Avoid Being a Helicopter Parent
- 3 Steps to Take When You Feel Like Screaming
- 12 Insights for Healthy Conflict
- 10 Ways to Keep Calm and Carry On
Dr. Gary J. OliverDr. Oliver has over 30 years experience in individual, premarital, marital and family counseling and for the past 20 years he has had an extensive nationwide teaching ministry with Promise Keepers and The American Association of Christian Counselors. read bio
Love and Loss
Dr. Gary Oliver is an iMOM iSpecialist. A psychologist, Dr. Oliver is the Executive Director of the Center for Relationship Enrichment and Professor of Psychology and Practical Theology at John Brown University in Siloam Springs, Arkansas. In 2007, Gary lost his wife Carrie to pancreatic cancer. They had been married for 25 years. She was only 48 years old when she died. Here is what Gary wrote on his first Valentine's Day without Carrie.
I wasn't sure what to expect on this very special day. This was the 1st time in 28 years I didn't get Carrie several Valentine's Day cards. Usually, I'd get her atleast 3-4 and send some before and then always give her one or two the day of along with some flowers, and both a serious and silly gift. I made it through Valentine's Day feeling sad, aware of being alone with no "lover" to send cards to or surprise with flowers, and no cards to open from my beloved wife. (Yet) at the same time (I have) a very FULL heart and gratitude for having been loved and having been able to love in ways that most people never experience. In 27 years of marriage I never had any reason to wonder about her faithfulness or love for me, nor did she have to worry about mine for her. I refuse to let my ache and sadness over what I've lost rob me of the enormous joy of what I had and, through precious memories, what I still have.comments powered by Disqus