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Articles by Mark Merrill
- Top 10 Automatic Robo-Mom Replies to Avoid
- The Secret to Loving an Unlovable Spouse
- The Secret to Getting Your Kids to Obey You: Motive
- The Secret to Getting Your Kids to Obey You: Method
- The Secret to Getting Your Kids to Obey You: Be this Kind of Model
- The Meaning of True Love
- The Blessing FAQ's
- How to Create Boundaries for your Children
- A Sample Blessing for Your Child
- 8 Mistakes I've Made in Marriage
- 7 Ways to Have a Dream Marriage
- 7 Foundational Principles of Tried-and-True Discipline
- 5 Ways to Show Your Kids You Love and Validate Them
- 5 Reasons Your Child Should Work
- 5 Reasons Why Your Teen is Rebelling
- 4 Ways to Know if You Will Benefit from Marriage Counseling
- 4 Ways to Give your Spouse your Freshest and Best
- 4 Truths for Your Marriage
- 4 Steps to Marriage CPR
- 4 Steps to Choosing a Good Marriage Counselor
- 4 Reasons Moms Need to be “Controlling” Parents
- 4 Foundational Principles of Discipline
- 4 C's That Can Spell Catastrophe in Your Marriage
- 3 Ways to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage
- 3 Ways to Have a Team Mindset in Marriage
- 3 Things Your Children Need from You
- 3 Secrets for Beating Loneliness in Your Marriage
- 23 Things I've Learned in 23 Years of Marriage
- 10 Things Husbands Want to Hear from their Wives
Mark MerrillMark Merrill is the founder and president of Family First, a widely respected national non-profit organization dedicated to strengthening the family. read bio
4 Foundational Principles of Discipline
Principle #1. Be Unified.
Do you and your spouse agree on discipline? Show your kids you’re unified. Agree with your spouse on how you will discipline your children—ahead of time.
Principle #2. Be Consistent.
You can read all the books in the world and have dozens of great ideas, but if you’re not consistent they won’t work. I’ll admit it, being consistent is tough. Sometimes it’s easier to just let the kids get away with something rather than stick to your plan. But consistency pays off in the long run. It helps our children know what to expect.
Principle #3. Be firm, not harsh.
Some parents think that the only way to get children to obey is to be harsh…with angry words or a raised voice. Children will respond better to a firm, authoritative tone. Here’s how to be firm, not harsh. Look your child in the eye. Say it once in a calm, firm voice, and then be silent…wait for their response. If they don’t respond, then immediately discipline them without saying another word.
Principle #4. Discipline privately.
Never discipline in public. Nothing is more humiliating and degrading to a child than disciplining them in the store or other public place. If your child misbehaves in public, let them know that they will be disciplined when they get home. Then, be sure to follow through.
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