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5 Reasons a Little Effort in Marriage Goes a Long Way


A friend of mine and her husband were talking with another couple.  The other guy complained that his wife takes way too long to get ready. “And when she shaves her legs,” he said,  “it takes even longer!” My friend’s husband was silent for a moment and then responded. “Your wife shaves her legs??” My friend didn’t know whether to laugh or kill him.

Sometimes in marriage, it’s the little things that add up—little positive things or little negative things—and influence the way we feel about the relationship overall. The good news is that with minimal effort, you can form some habits that keep the positive vibes flowing and your marriage going strong.

1. Little courtesies

Running late? Send him a text to let him know. Making a meal plan for the week? Ask him which favorites he’s in the mood for. Driving by the dry cleaners on your way home from work? Pick up his shirts. None of these require great effort, but say quietly, “I care, and I was thinking about you.”

2. Parenting partnership

Volumes have been written about the need for couples to work together in their parenting. Keep yourself accountable to run important decisions by your husband rather than acting like a one-woman show. He’ll feel validated, and your children will benefit from the knowledge that mom and dad agree on the rules.

3. Respect

Aretha Franklin told us it was important, but we sometimes forget. For men, the respect thing is big—bigger than you probably know. That doesn’t mean that you don’t have a right to disagree, but the manner and tone in which you disagree can keep your relationship intact when the discussion is over.

4. Money manners

Couples fight about money more than anything else. So nip that tension in the bud by communicating honestly and responsibly about spending decisions. Resist the urge to strike out on your own with a big purchase with the thought that it’s “easier to get forgiveness than permission.” Because honestly—wouldn’t you rather him show you the same courtesy, too?

5. House rules

Does your husband have a pet peeve or a specific thing around the house that really matters to him? Then by all means, try to help him out. If it drives him nuts to open three bottles of ketchup before the first one is empty—empty one bottle at a time. Very little effort for you—big relief to him.

 

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