Share the Love with Your Husband

Am I nicer to my kids than I am to my husband? Confession: Yes, sometimes I am! For example, when I answer a call from our children I sound like this, “Hi honey! How are you doing? What do you need, sweetheart?” But when I answer a call from my husband I often say something like this, “Hey. What’s up?”

So what about you? Do you save most of your sweet talk, kindness, and patience for your kids? Does your husband get your short answers, lukewarm kindness, and impatience? If you’re like me, you might have to answer, yes.
So try these 6 ways to share the love with your husband.

1. Compliment.

When you see him at the end of the day, lay a big compliment on him:

“Wow! You still look so great, even after a long day at work.”
“Hey, handsome.”
“There’s my hero.”

2. Cook.

Make his favorite meal for dinner and tell him you did it just for him.

3. Kiss.

Give him a really big kiss when he gets home.

4. Cuddle.

After the kids go to bed, instead of heading to the kitchen to clean, or getting on your computer; find your husband, sit beside him, or crawl into his lap and ask him how he’s doing.

5. Massage.

Give him a foot massage (take off his socks for him if you really want to show him some love), a back massage, or a hand massage.

6. Enthuse.

Show enthusiasm for having sex—put on some nice-smelling lotion and ask him to meet you in the bedroom.

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  • drrichardnorris

    This goes both ways. I need to do more of this for my wife. Thanks for the heads up.

  • Stephany

    thank you Susan! As busy moms, we forget to love our husbands as when we first did. We get so caught up with the business of cleaning, cooking, caring for the kids, school, work, the list goes on for us women. But setting aside time for our husbands, re-sparking the love at first sight scene makes all the difference to them and to us. Just as we need to put in our part, so do they. Our love is still there, buried deep, or shown to the max, but we need to also be alert in prayer and in mind, because satan comes to seek, kill, and destroy. So where ever God is, satan isn’t! (Love is patient, love is kind…love never fails! 1 Corinthians 13.

  • Friday Foxx

    Well said. I would add that a mans assumptions are closely linked to his experience and his intuition. Some situations can be dangerous and there isn’t time to discuss the “reasons” for your husbands decision. If he is your rock than the right women to be a man’ s wife understands that she puts her life in his hands with her decision to say “yes” to his authority.
    Also, I would say men need to work on “respecting” their wives, but that once we decide to “love” we truly love without exception and that love stays with the man until the end of time. Otherwise men don’t get “emotional” with women, that’s why men are not unusual in their ability to have dis-connected sex.
    Conversely, women need to work on “loving” their husbands, for if a women does not “respect” her husband than their really isn’t any foundation to speak of. It’s got to be hard to love a man sometime; we are not always loveable. However, if the there is little respect the question begs why did the women accept the man to begin with, surely he was then as he is now? Trouble for women usually happens when a man is not up front or already his own “rock” before marriage is offered, thus not really presenting his true nature or form to the women who must accept him “as is”. This is why it’s important for men to find “themselves” first before they find their wives.