The Good Wife Diet

how to be a good wife

I am not a fan of diets. There is one, however, that can help all wives—no matter their size, how long they’ve been married, or even how happy they are in their marriage. The Good Wife Diet can help make your marriage healthier, stronger, and, yes, sexier. It will help you figure out how to be a good wife.

Oh, and your husband doesn’t even need to know you’re on the Good Wife Diet. He can just enjoy the benefits. If he does notice and asks you about why you look so happy and why you’re full of energy—benefits of the Good Wife Diet—let him in on your secret and then help him devise his own Good Husband Diet!

Fill up on positive thoughts about your husband.

If we are what we eat, we are for sure what we think. If your thoughts are full of what your husband does wrong and what he says wrong, you will soon gain a negative perspective on your husband. To lose it, change your thinking. For every critical thought you have about him, immediately name three things that are good about him. This list can help.

Replace criticism with healthier options like empathy and kindness.

If the words you use with your husband were on a menu, what adjectives would describe them? Untasty? Bitter? Healthy communication starts with empathy. When we put ourselves in our husband’s shoes we’re more motivated to choose words that let him know we care about him, even when we’re telling him something that might be unpalatable.

Use spices liberally.

Food without flavor is boring—enter spices and seasonings! If your sex life has fallen into a bland rut, add some flavor. Go for sweet, like vanilla; intriguing like anise; or intense like wasabi. On second thought, maybe something milder than wasabi! If your life feels too crazy right now to make sex a staple of your life, take a look at this.

Swap criticisms for compliments whenever possible.

Do you remember the Eat This Not That book? It suggested alternatives to unhealthy food choices, you know, like eating a grilled chicken breast–not a double bacon cheeseburger. The good wife diet follows the same premise. If at all possible, say kind words to your husband, not words that tear him down. Criticism is the junk food of communication–it’s easy to grab but yields very little benefit.

Add physical touch to almost every meal.

When you sit down to a meal with your husband, or when you join him on the couch to watch a movie and eat popcorn, get physical. Touch his hand, kiss him on the cheek, pat him on the back, squeeze his shoulder—connect physically in whatever way you can. Touch stimulates hormones in our bodies that lead to positive thoughts and health. See, that’s how the Good Wife Diet gives you a healthy glow!

What’s on your Good Wife Diet?