In the day-to-day trenches of parenting, it’s hard to measure whether we’re getting through to our kids. They’re surrounded by so many other voices—friends, teachers, peers, and the Insta-famous. Those voices are loud and usually in opposition to our voices.
So what’s the power of moms? Does a mom’s influence stand out amidst the competition? A recent study of Gen Z in Christian households shows moms have the primary influence on their tweens and teens in several key areas. These 3 will encourage you the most (and there’s one where we have room to improve).
The study asked Gen Z-ers, people born between 1996 and 2010, to measure the impact of siblings, other family members, friends, and non-relatives. Here are three areas where moms scored high.
1. Your influence on time.
Tweens and teens said they spend more time eating, watching television and movies, and praying with their moms than with any other family member. Moms also scored high for having fun with their teens, second only to siblings. And moms are the family member teens text and call most.
Despite the uptick in busy schedules and media access, the power of moms to impact their children through meals and spending time together continues. Those are both great ways to start conversations and listen to what’s on our children’s hearts.
2. Your influence as adviser.
Moms shine as the primary source of support for their tweens and teens. Gen Z goes to their moms more than to friends or any other family member for encouragement, sympathy, and advice. When they have something that bothers them, they go to their moms first and they overwhelmingly rely on their moms when going through a personal crisis.
Gen Z goes to their moms more than to friends or any other family member for encouragement, sympathy, and advice.
3. Your influence in shaping their faith.
In areas related to faith, moms are the primary influence on teens. Nearly 100 percent of teens active in their faith say their moms are their chief encouragers to go to church and that moms are the main source of all encouragement.
Members of Generation Z note that moms set the values in their homes, pray with them, set an example, and talk with them about the Bible. And this influence isn’t only while children are at home. A mom’s primary impact on her child’s spiritual formation continues after the children are launched from home into young adulthood.
We do have room to improve.
What’s the one area where teens go to friends for support more than to their moms? When they talk about sex. This is one subject with which we can be more intentional with our kids. Here are 5 questions for having the talk with your kids.
Where do you see your influence making the biggest impact for your children?