Two Very Different Parenting Styles and the One I Chose
I chose between two very different parenting styles this morning for how I would interact with my son.
The first parenting style would’ve gone like this: “Andrew, come here right now. I don’t want you to play on your iPad all day and I don’t want the TV on all day. So before you even ask for screen time, first, empty the garbage. I also need you to help put away groceries and the silverware from the dishwasher.”
I thought about it and realized that approach would set a confrontational tone for the morning and likely exasperate my son. So I chose a different parenting style: “Hi, Andrew,” I said, as I walked over to join him on the couch where he was curled up in a blanket.
“I have to go to work for a couple of hours this morning, so let’s come up with a plan for your day. Here’s what I see as part of your schedule,” and I wrote down iPad, TV, groceries, silverware, garbage, and games with mom.
“So what’s your plan?” I asked as I handed him the pen and paper.
He went on to write out a schedule. I told him that it sounded great. He immediately popped up and, without having to ask him, he did a couple of other small chores.
This parenting style helped me stay out of the “verbal boxing ring” with my son. We avoided an argument about what I wanted him to do and what he wanted to do.
Parenting expert, Dr. Scott Turansky, shows you how to adopt this parenting style with is 4 Tips for Staying out of the Boxing Ring With Your Kids.