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How to Protect Your Children from Cyber-Bullying

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With today’s significant online presence, you might be asking: What is cyber-bullying? First, here’s some basic information on bullying, in general.

 A Word about the Victim

Although anyone can be the target of bullying behavior, the victim is often singled out because of his or her psychological traits more than his or her physical traits. A typical victim is likely to be shy, sensitive, and perhaps anxious or insecure. Some children are picked on for physical reasons such as being overweight or physically small, having a disability, or belonging to a different race or religious faith.

 A Word about the Bully

Some bullies are outgoing, aggressive, active, and expressive. They get their way by brute force or openly harassing someone. This type of bully rejects rules and regulations and needs to rebel to achieve a feeling of superiority and security. Other bullies are more reserved and manipulative and may not want to be recognized as harassers or tormentors. They try to control by smooth-talking, saying the “right” thing at the “right” time, and lying. This type of bully gets his or her power discreetly through cunning, manipulation, and deception.

As different as these two types may seem, all bullies have some characteristics in common. They:

  • are concerned with their own pleasure
  • want power over others
  • are willing to use and abuse other people to get what they want
  • feel pain inside, perhaps because of their own shortcomings
  • find it difficult to see things from someone else’s perspective

What You Can Do

  • Listen to children. Encourage children to talk about school, social events, other kids in class, and the walk or ride to and from school so you can identify any problems they may be having.
  • Take children’s complaints of bullying seriously. Probing a seemingly minor complaint may uncover more severe grievances. Children are often afraid or ashamed to tell anyone that they have been bullied, so listen to their complaints.
  • Watch for symptoms that children may be bullying victims, such as withdrawal, a drop in grades, torn clothes, or needing extra money or supplies.
  • Tell the school or organization immediately if you think that your children are being bullied. Alerted caregivers can carefully monitor your children’s actions and take steps to ensure your children’s safety.
  • Work with other parents to ensure that the children in your neighborhood are supervised closely on their way to and from school.
  • Don’t bully your children yourself, physically or verbally. Use nonphysical, consistently enforced discipline measures as opposed to ridiculing, yelling at, or ignoring your children when they misbehave.
  • Help children learn the social skills they need to make friends. A confident, resourceful child who has friends is less likely to be bullied or to bully others.
  • Praise children’s kindness toward others. Let children know that kindness is valued.
  • Teach children ways to resolve arguments without violent words or actions. Teach children self-protection skills — how to walk confidently, stay alert to what’s going on around them, and to stand up for themselves verbally.
  • Provide opportunities for children to talk about bullying, perhaps when watching TV together, reading aloud, playing a game, or going to the park or a movie.
  • Recognize that bullies may be acting out feelings of insecurity, anger, or loneliness. If your child is a bully, help get to the root of the problem. Seek out specific strategies you can use at home from a teacher, school counselor, or child psychologist.

Cyber-Bullying Facts

Here are some cyber-bullying statistics:

  • 80 percent of complaints to social networking sites (MySpace, Facebook, etc.) are for bullying.
  • 60 percent of cyber-bullies remain anonymous.
  • Girls are more likely than boys to take part in cyber-bullying.

So how can you protect your child from cyber-bullying? Before you plan how you’ll protect your child, realize that cyber-bullying is not limited to the internet. It can take place in text messages and mobile phone calls too.

  • Talk to your child about cyber-bullying. Ask them if they have been bullied, or if they have taken part in bullying. Make them feel comfortable enough to tell you that they have been a cyber-bullying victim.
  • Look over the above explanation of bullies, and explain to your child that bullies use aggression to have power, and because they do not feel good about themselves under the surface.
  • Reassure your children that they are loved and valued. Harsh words from peers can hurt, even if they aren’t true. Acknowledge your children’s feelings and comfort them.
  • If you can identify the bullies, speak to their parents or report them to the school. If you do report them to your child’s school, try to do this anonymously so your child will not be targeted for retribution.
  • Consider if you even want your child to have a social-networking online page. If you do allow it, go over the privacy settings with your child. And, tell your child that you will regularly check her page.
  • Never seek revenge on behalf of your child by taking part in bullying yourself.

Have you witnessed the results of cyber-bullying? What did you do?


Have you ever witnessed or been a victim of cyber-bullying?

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