Are You Experiencing Working Mom Guilt?

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I always longed to be a stay-at-home mom. My mom did it. My grandmother did it. And that is how I pictured my life, too. I’d be supermom, doing crafts with the kids all day and having dinner ready for my husband when he came home from work each night.

My husband and I got married right after I graduated college and started our own family a few years later. With each of us working several jobs between us to pay the bills and my husband returning to college to change careers, I soon came to realize that staying at home was not my reality. And my supermom dreams came crashing down around me.

I was blessed to get a job that turned into a rewarding and successful career. Still, I would hear moms talking about their playdates and the fun they had at moms’ groups. And though I know being at home all day with kids has its own unique set of challenges, still waves of guilt would overwhelm me as I left my kids off at daycare for the next eight hours. Can you relate?

If you are feeling this way, stop. Just because you have to—or choose to—work outside of your home doesn’t mean you love your kids any less or that they will be marred for life somehow. {Tweet This}  Here is some food for thought to encourage you today:

Think about how your job benefits your family.

Perhaps your job allows your family to afford lessons and classes, take vacations together, or put money in a savings account for your kids’ college educations. And don’t fret about those stay-at-home dreams. Successful career moms may become efficient in both worlds.

Think about the example you are to your kids.working mother quote

No matter what you do for a living, you can show them a hard work ethic and the importance of honesty and integrity in the workplace. When my kids were born, I felt this extra incentive to be an example. As a woman in the workplace, I especially wanted to show my daughters how a woman could be whatever she wanted to be.

Don’t think about the time you don’t have, use what you do have.

Take advantage of car rides home from daycare or school, using them to spark conversations or teachable moments. Use bedtimes wisely and read, sing, or talk with your child. It’s a great bonding time that is important.

Don’t think about the dishes in the sink (as much).

Having a job outside the home  has actually given me balance. I know my natural tendency is to get hyper over undone housework; but, with only an hour or so in the evening to do everything, I realized that I can’t do everything. So I do what I can and remind myself of what is more important—the dust bunnies or my kids.

Think about the education and socialization your kids will get.

When you do your homework and find a quality daycare, your children will learn a lot! Not only will they get an early start on their education, but they will learn how to play well with others and make new friends in the process.

What do you find most rewarding as a mom who works outside the home?