The 12 Ways of Hands-On Parents

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Hands-on parents are incredibly important in the lives of children. {Tweet This} A 1996 Journal of Family Issues article observed that “family disruption and lack of parental involvement during childhood correlated with an increase in lying, cheating, fighting, and criminal activity among youth.” And a study carried out by the Institute for Youth Development reported that hands-on parents raised teens who drank, smoked, and did drugs at much lower rates than the general teen population.

Hands-on parenting always involves spending lots of time with children. In his article “The Parent Trap,” William Mattox Jr. quoted Harvard University child psychiatrist Robert Cole: “The frenzied need of children to have possessions isn’t only a function of the ads they see on TV. It’s a function of their hunger for what they aren’t getting–their parents’ time.”

When 1,500 schoolchildren were asked, “What do you think makes a happy family?” the most frequent answer was not money, nice house, cars, or TVs. The most frequent answer was “doing things together” as a family.

So check out the 12-step plan to keep your kids and family on track.


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  • Gandy McDill

    This is super helpful! I am definitely going to print this as a reminder. Sometimes it’s easy to lose focus.

  • frank

    Ummm… duh!!! Is this a joke? Another example of me thinking I was going to learn something new and necessary, only to find that I wasted my time!

    • Timothy

      Frank, congratulations, really, if this is stuff you’re already doing!!

      But, spending time to confirm that you are on the right track is never a waste!!

    • Tammy

      Your response is completely rude. Just because this may not seem timely for your family doesn’t mean it’s not life changing for someone else’s. Take heart to the old saying, ” if you can’t say something nice, done say it at all”.

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  • planetgrrl

    The article starts out talking about ‘doing things together,’ and while I agree with the graphic, it doesn’t exactly suggest family activities that promote interaction in a positive, productive way. In my experience, restricting our kids’ entertainment and monitoring their whereabouts, while crucial, is a by-product of doing lots of stuff together. There’s definitely a connection between them, but it’s not made here. The graphic would have been more effective if it included more activities to help balance out all the surveillance, such as cooking together, cleaning together, taking care of pets together, doing school work / career work in the same room together, talking together about this & that, planning holidays and vacation time together, etc. Besides the homework, these things don’t have to be everyday (who has that kind of time), but doing stuff together more times a week than not definitely helps.

    • Tammy

      Don’t ridicule the hard work they put into the daily info they pour out to our families. If it don’t work for you, blog what does personally on your social media but don’t put down what they have chosen to share for others that may make a real difference.

      • planetgrrl

        The article does not do what it sets out to do, and I’m pointing it out. It would appear you lack the critical skills to understand this. Too bad.

  • juen

    please check the link to the pdf and jpg download on this page

    • Juen – thanks for letting us know. The links should be working now!