It’s unrealistic in our technology-driven world to isolate yourself, not get a phone or computer, or pretend you can avoid the Internet. Although you may delay your child’s involvement in the Internet, the reality of its presence in your home is inevitable. There are several things you can do to ensure your family’s safety online. Here are 7.
1. Get an Education
Most parents are behind their children when it comes to the latest in Internet technology. Kids today have tons of social media options, download music both legally and illegally, publish information about themselves that others can see, enter into online dialogue with strangers, and surf the Internet for the latest information, both good and bad. As a parent, you have to learn what’s out there and how the system works.
2. Put the Tablet/Computer in a Public Place
Children should not have private access to the Internet. The temptations are too great. The computer should be in a place where Mom or Dad can walk by and see what’s going on. Keep in mind that privacy is a privilege, not a right. Children on the Internet are faced with new and challenging temptations so close monitoring is essential. Parents should be able to read emails and review sites that the child has visited. Keep in mind that in this age of wireless Internet access, a child with a computer in a bedroom may have access to the Internet through the neighbor’s open WiFi system.
3. Establish Accountability
You don’t have to be obnoxious about monitoring your children but kids need to know that what they are doing on the computer is being watched. It’s amazing how easy kids will say things through their fingers that they wouldn’t consider saying in person. Check up on your kids often. Look at the history of the sites they’ve visited. If they are erasing their history then you can assume something is wrong and take action accordingly. You can also talk to your provider about sending you reports. Read the emails and text messages they are receiving and sending. You don’t have to do this secretly. Your child should already know that accountability is required for Internet use.
4. Install a Filter or Some Other Safeguard Program
Filters provide the safeguard of preventing access to offensive sites. Most filters allow you to choose the degree of filtering based on the age of the child. Install the filter and make sure that it is not being violated with some kind of technological work around.
5. Set Up Family Computer Rules
The needs, age, development, character, and maturity of each child should be taken into account as you set up guidelines for computer use. Some children shouldn’t be on the computer at all because they aren’t responsible enough to handle it. Computer addiction can start very young so setting firm limits is essential for balance in a child’s life. Set up appropriate boundaries for your children and a system for monitoring them. Some computer safety programs have built-in timers that allow parents to set limits on a child’s computer time. Be ready to adjust the boundaries and guidelines based on a number of factors.
6. Dialogue about the Issues
Plenty of stories are in the news about people who abused the Internet and got into serious trouble. You might share some of those stories with your kids. Also, children need to understand the dangers, so have conversations about your concerns. Don’t make the whole dialogue negative, however. There are plenty of positive ways to take advantage of the Internet. Discuss those with your kids as well.
7. Use Technology to Build Relationship With Your Kids
Sending texts or FB messages to your children can open dialogue that you might not have otherwise. Kids today love to communicate using technology. You can join into the communication by understanding how the various tools work and then using them to interact with your kids. Keep in mind though, that technology can’t take the place of personal face-to-face contact with your children. Take your child out for ice cream or sit on the couch and talk. The Internet has a lot of advantages in our society but nothing takes the place of spending time together.
What rules for Internet use have you set up at home?
Sending texts or FB messages to your children can open dialogue that you might not have otherwise.
Dr. Scott Turansky is an author and speaker known for his heartfelt parenting approach. He offers moms practical, real-life advice for many of parenting’s greatest challenges and is the founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting.