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4 Ways Wives Take Their Husbands for Granted

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My husband has worked in his own business for many years. I know the few employees he has, and I like and trust them. Last year, my husband started a second job at a much larger office with lots of employees. When I attended a party at his new workplace, I saw a group of women smiling and pointing at my husband. Soon, they walked up and began talking to him in a flirtatious way. He was oblivious. I was not.

Suffice it to say, that in one sense, that scene made me up my game. Not that I don’t trust my husband, but it made me realize that I wanted him to feel as appreciated and admired at home as he does in his new office. I didn’t want him to feel taken for granted. What about you? Does your husband feel appreciated and loved?

Here are 4 ways your husband might feel taken for granted:

1. The kids come before him, 99 percent of the time.

Most husbands understand that their children’s needs are often more immediate than their own. But if you’re in the habit of putting your children before your husband most of the time, you might want to reevaluate your choices. You’ll also want to look over these 13 ways moms make their children their idols. 

2. You have nothing left to give at the end of the day

Wake up early. Take care of the kids. Get to work. Meet your deadlines. Talk with a friend who’s having a tough time. Finish making dinner. Help the kids with homework. Pay the bills. Get in bed. Oh, who’s that next to you? It’s your husband. Sorry, you think to yourself, I have no energy left for you—no energy to talk or listen, and certainly not enough energy for sex.

Yes, some days you will have nothing left to give your husband at the end of the day, and if he’s a pretty good guy, he’ll understand. But if he sees you giving part of yourself and your time to everyone but him, he’ll likely feel taken for granted.

3. You’re rude to him.

If good manners have gone out the window in your marriage, it’s time to bring them back. Nothing says, “I take you for granted” like treating your husband rudely. {Tweet This} When we aren’t kind to our husbands, we’re basically telling them that we know they’ll stick around even though we’re treating them like dirt. That’s the very definition of taking someone for granted.

4. You blow off his advice.

Husbands, just like wives, want to be appreciated for what they bring to their family’s home life. So while you might appreciate what he does outside of the home to help support his family financially, be sure you also value the input he offers regarding parenting and other home issues. If he doesn’t get involved with these matters, could it be because you’ve treated his past involvement as an interference or as having little merit?

Take a look at these 4 ways you can make your husband feel valued for the “man vibe” he adds to your life.

Here’s a reality check for us: If our husband left us today, either by choice or by death, could we say that we had shown him love and that he felt cherished? Could we honestly say that he knew how much we appreciated him for all he brought to our life?


What does it mean to take someone or something for granted?

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