No two moms have the same kids, husband, or life, but we love to compare ourselves to one another. In this episode, we talk about how to stop comparing yourself with others, what pulls you into that comparison trap, and what to do to stay in a healthy mindset.
Chloe starts the conversation with a story about a friend with a son who’s around her son’s age. When they met up to spend time together, Chloe couldn’t help but notice how quickly her friend’s son went to sleep when he was laid in his swing. Chloe said, “He took his paci and just went to sleep!” Because the babies are so close in age, it was hard for Chloe not to wonder if she was doing something wrong. That story is just the beginning of how we compare ourselves to one another. Actually, comparison often starts while we’re pregnant! And single moms, we know comparison plays out differently for you, too.
Of course, we address the biggest source of comparison for most moms: social media. What portrayal of motherhood are you most tempted to compare yourself to? The way you keep your home, how you dress, your kids’ grades or behavior, or how successful your family appears? The problem is that we tend to compare our reality to everyone else’s edited, curated life. If only we could see what’s happening outside the photo frame or three seconds after the picture was taken.
One idea for how to stop comparing yourself with others is to cut back on your time spent scrolling, but that’s not the only thing we can do. We share ideas for how to feel more confident and reassured that you’re one of a kind, and that’s how it should be!
