If you meet a mom who says she never yells, be wary about that relationship! All moms yell because we’re human and because our kids are human. Knowing you’re not the only one who loses her cool now and then should make you feel better, but is it enough to really help you let go of the shame many moms feel for yelling? In this episode, Megan talks about a time her husband yelled at their 3-year-old. Before you think Megan just threw her husband under the bus, she admits she yells at her son for much less egregious offenses.
Who yells more in your house, you or your husband? Years ago, lots of people had the image of the stern father who raises his voice while the mom stands in the background ready to jump in and soothe her upset child. But now, more moms are fessing up to yelling, and dads seem to be more relaxed. Women carry so much more today, so it’s no wonder we yell more. But is the yelling about your child or you? We all admitted that the times we’ve raised our voices, we’ve been at the end of our ropes.
You’re setting yourself up for failure if you say you’ll never yell again, but there are things you can do to yell less or have more self-control. We talked about how to respond when you’re triggered. It’s four simple steps, but it takes intention and practice. If you are quick to yell, remember, you’re not damaging your child. Just work to have more positive connections than negative ones. We have some great ideas for that, too!
Articles We Mentioned
3 Changes You’ll See When You Lower Your Voice
5 Steps to Being a Scream-Free Mom
4 Steps to Responding Instead of Reacting When You’re Triggered
Mom Rage Is Real, but You Can Do Something About It
10 Strategies for Not Losing Your Temper
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Is yelling your go-to form of communication? What have you tried to do to curb yelling, and how’s that working for you?
