One resolution we should all make for this new year is to stop comparing ourselves to others. Whether it is the social media account we follow or the advertisements in our inbox, sometimes our inner voices whisper that who we are or what we have is not enough. Our inner voices say things like, “If only I were a little more (fill in the blank), then I’d be happier.” When we begin to believe these lies, we put ourselves in a position of endless striving for something we can’t attain. How do we stop comparing and keep the lies from trickling in and taking over our everyday decisions?
When you choose to believe the lies that who you are or what you have is not enough, you set yourself up for discontentment. Unrealistic expectations lead you into disappointment and depression. This is not who you are meant to be. Stop comparing yourself to others. Guard your mind and heart with the truth and reject any thought that says otherwise. Here are 3 lies to watch out for and 3 truths that will leave you feeling confident and free.
If only I were…
When this lie is whispered into your conscience, it alters how you act in order to be more like others. When you are trying to be more like someone else, you’re being less like you. It’s exhausting to maintain ideals that aren’t authentically yours.
But the truth is, you don’t have to change who you are to be worthy of love. You are enough in this moment—and you always have been.
If only I had…
Truthfully, you’re not the only one who has ever felt disappointed in your circumstances at some point or another. However, this lie prohibits you from enjoying time with the people around you and leaves you discontent with what you have. When you assign your happiness to the people in your life or your possessions, you’ll find that they can’t measure up to your expectations.
But the truth is, the people in your life and the things that you have are a gift that you can choose to be thankful for.
If only I could…
This lie goes deeper than a search for happiness into a search for value. When you place your value in what you do, you rely on something that can change at any moment. This lie tells you that your worth doesn’t extend past your abilities.
But the truth is, you always have something to offer the world and most of the time, it’s not what you do, but who you are.
When you combat the comparison mentality by rehearsing these truths, you will find true joy in the here and now. You will experience the freedom to run your race and run it well. Be empowered in knowing that you can offer your authentic self to the world. It takes a great amount of courage, but the freedom on the other side is worth it.
What are some truths we can speak over ourselves today?