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The Positive Thinking Cure for Your Negative Outlook

Courtney is wearing her negative lenses again. Everywhere she looks she sees the worst. Nothing feels good enough in her life. She always looks at what she doesn’t have instead of valuing what she does have. She feels like she will never achieve at the level her friends are. Courtney’s negative outlook needs the positive thinking cure!

Have you ever felt like Courtney? If so, you might be struggling with a negative outlook. This state of mind can cause people to struggle with negative self-talk, depression, and even cause relationship problems.

Here’s how to use the positive thinking cure for your negative outlook:

Look For The Positive

When you are Miss Negative, life will drag you down. If you shift to looking for the positive in any situation, you will start to see the sunshine through the gray clouds. Life is hard and is not always positive, but when you get into the habit of looking at the positive more than the negative you may have a change of heart. Here are some tips to help you change your negative thinking.

Compliment Instead of Complaining

Relationships suffer when you are a chronic complainer. People start to feel unappreciated and like they aren’t good enough in your eyes. If this is you, it is time to start complimenting. Next time your child has made a horrible mess making you a special gift, don’t go straight to the complaint. Start with the compliment that you are so happy they thought of you and took the time to make you something so creative. Then you can ask them to help you start to clean up all the paper scraps. Here is a great way to get started with iMOM’s 7 Day No Complaining Challenge.

Have An Attitude Of Gratitude

This state of mind will do wonders for your mental health. We live in a world of “Give Me Now” which can fuel a discontent heart. A mindset of being thankful for all you have will go to war with discontentment. This dose of reality helps you take a step back and see all the good you do have, rather than only seeing all you don’t. Check out these ways to teach your kids (and yourself!) about gratitude and overindulgence.

Accept Your Place in Life

Every person is different and has a unique set of circumstances. Because of that, someone will have more or less than you. Someone will be in a higher or lower position than you. Someone will have more well-behaved or crazier kids than you. We will not have a clone. If you struggle with comparing yourself to others, read about this self-destructive trap and others that moms often fall into.

When we accept that we are where we are and that it is an okay place to be, we can fight the chatter from the negative outlook. Of course, it is good to have goals and strive for them. But if meeting a goal is out of comparing and not feeling good enough compared to others, you will likely still feel discontent when you have met the goal.

What makes it hard for you to be happy and content with how your life is right now?

Teri Claassen is a Jesus follower, wife to Dan, mommy to one boy and one girl, a foster mom to kids in need, and a therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling in Tampa, FL.

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