3 Michelle Duggar Parenting Tips


Michelle Duggar, the mother on TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting, recently spoke at a conference where she shared some of her parenting wisdom. Even if you’re not a fan of the show or of her, she has done an amazing job at raising well-adjusted, respectful, and seemingly happy children.

What we really love is the way she makes it a point to love her children by praising them often and disciplining them with patience instead of anger.

So here are 3 things Michelle Duggar gets right.

1. When Angry, Whisper:

I have a temper from time to time. I admit it. I also admit that when my toddler was a still a baby, I lost my temper with her and yelled at her. Since then, I have learned to communicate my anger in a healthier manner because the last thing we want our children to remember is mama’s temper, right? So whisper. Not only does this help you in controlling your own anger, but it can really get their attention more quickly! Keep your strong, loud voice for outside play and to keep them from danger. What Kind of “Angry Mom Are You?”

2. Teach Attentiveness:

Attentiveness is a crucial skill kids need to learn and the earlier the better. Michelle Duggar says, “[Attentiveness is] showing the worth of a person by giving undivided concentration to his words and emotions.” Wow. With this in mind, teaching children to not only stay near you when you are talking, but to look at you, listen to you, and respond to you, is an important skill and courtesy. Duggar also mentioned teaching obedience and self-control, but it all begins with attentiveness. A child who listens attentively has a much easier time learning obedience as well as self-control. {Tweet This7 Ways to Teach Self-Control

3. Practice Good Behavior:

There are always behaviors in our children we don’t like: demanding behaviors, destructive behaviors, you know what I mean. However, once kids start talking a bit or communicating in general, practicing good behavior is better than correcting poor. Michelle says when her children demand something (“I’m thirsty!”), she has them repeat the correct way to say it (“May I have a drink, please?”) five times. You don’t have to make it boring. You can make it a game: role-play with toys, use silly voices… Be creative! Good Manners Reward Coupons

Above all, we need to remember one more thing Mrs. Duggar said, “These children are God’s, not mine.” This is so true. We are only given these children for a limited amount of time to train up, and it is not for the fainthearted. So focus on teaching one thing at a time and then shower them with love and kisses.

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In The Comments

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  • Mommy23

    Sooooo needed this! Thank you Michelle Dugger for being so willing to put herself out there as a human (not perfect) example. She doesn’t try to act like she has it all figured out perfectly. She is so gracious and non-judgemental. Thank you Susan Merrill so much from a mom who also tends to have a bit of a temper and gets weary and frustrated at times. We are fighting the good fight though.

  • Tosin A.

    When angry whisper. That needs to be my daily mantra as a mother. *takes deep breathe*

  • Jenna Sears

    Great suggestions– I especially enjoy the idea of whispering– not sure how they are ever going to hear me, but I’m going to give it a try! “Soft Spoken Parenting” by Dr. Wally Goddard promotes similar ideals for parenting. Thanks for the reminder to show more love!

  • cdl5555

    This is ridiculous. I realize that times are changing, but let go of the umbilical cord mom’s! Yes, get to know the parents, Yes, have a way to communicate with your child when they’d like to come home. That’s all great, but seriously, “g-rated movies” and “computer filters” and then you lump that in with “don’t micromanage”. A little contradicting? Let them go, see how they do, and assess if you should do that again.. Go with the flow. Children connect best with someone approachable, not the mom handing out rules like M&M’s

  • violinmom

    I am so glad someone on my friends list shared this. I am going to be visiting imom more often. I too tried the whispering thing with my 3rd child who is very stubborn. When I yelled or demanded at her to obey, she wouldn’t, but when I’d whisper… she’d smile sweetly and obey! It was a life changing moment. love the positive comments as well!

  • Mary

    maybe if Jim Bob and Michelle were home instead of trying to im press people in other countries and leaving the kids at home to only have the older kids watching them they might know what is going on under their noses and don’t the kids each get money for making the show..we all know who is pocketing the money… what about child labor in this family..what is Jim Bob doing by bending Michelle over every chance he gets..to kiss Michelle especially in front of the kids. notice the creepy laugh he always does every time he does this..sickening…..get this crap off of the TV…