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41 Ways to Romance Your Husband

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Your husband’s idea of romance might be a night of ESPN, nachos and you (at least you’re part of it, right?). Another husband might prefer soft music, scented candles, and, oh yeah, you, of course!

We can always use another good idea for romancing our husband, right?  Here are 41 ways to romance your husband you might not have thought of.

  1. Hide a love note in his wallet.
  2. Send a sweet text message, for no reason at all.
  3. Send a sexy text message, for a very good reason.
  4. Invite him on a date for a change.
  5. Let him talk without interrupting.
  6. Cook his favorite dinner.
  7. Make sure his favorite clothes are clean and ready to wear.
  8. Show interest in his work.
  9. Watch the whole game with him.
  10. Wear perfume.
  11. Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones.
  12. Tell him he looks extra handsome.
  13. Let him enjoy his hobby guilt-free.
  14. Play songs you both loved when you were dating.
  15. Praise him in front of the kids.
  16. Praise him in front of his friends.
  17. Kiss him when he walks in the door.
  18. Kiss him when he walks out the door.
  19. Kiss him when he gets anywhere near the door.
  20. Let the kids eat in front of the TV one night and have a nice, adults-only dinner.
  21. Let him make the call on parenting decisions without second-guessing.
  22. Bring him breakfast in bed.
  23. Choose the pretty nightgown over the flannel PJ’s—even if it’s cold.
  24. Choose your birthday suit over the pretty nightgown.
  25. When you tell him you’ll do something—follow through.
  26. Offer a massage.
  27. Meet him at the door so that you can greet him before the children pile on.
  28. Send a text with just one word… “When?”
  29. Have supper going so the house smells great when he walks in.
  30. Light a candle in the bedroom.
  31. Buy him his favorite snack or beverage.
  32. Fix up a travel mug of coffee just the way he likes it before he heads out the door.
  33. Act like you’ve never heard his story before—even when you have.
  34. Tell him how proud he makes you.
  35. Hold his hand when he least expects it.
  36. Sit on his lap.
  37. Encourage him to do something with his friends.
  38. Let him rough-house with the kids without scolding.
  39. Feel his muscles.
  40. Wink at him.
  41. Say, “Yes.”

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  • Bebe Fernandez

    Perfect list

  • Dotherightthing

    Thank you for your helpful suggestions- I have one for you also:) Please consider that many mothers work outside the home and more and more women are the primary or even sole “bread-winners” of the household. While many (even the majority) of your suggestions can apply to moms who work outside the home OR from within the home (either as stay-at-home-moms and/or for a company), there is a consistent undertone in your writings that favors providing advice specific to the latter (such as #s 27, 29, and 32). It would be great to see wording and ideas that reflect the diversity of moms in your audience today rather than assume we are all adhering to the “Leave It To Beaver” model nowadays…. (BTW- I’m not knocking that show -I love it:)

    • Tami

      Eh. I’d say there’s only one that you might not be able to do. With meal planning and a crock pot even having food on is doable. Mom always does the coffee thing for Dad even though they both work. If it’s important to you, you make it a priority. Besides, it isn’t that difficult to disregard the few suggestions that don’t apply to you.

  • nazila

    Thanks a lot for your helpful ways. I’ll use them.

  • Ainsley

    This list
    definitely caters to stay-at-home moms. I leave for work while my husband is
    still in bed and I get home from work hours after he does. Also, a few of these
    suggestions shouldn’t be considered “romancing” as they should be an everyday
    thing. Letting him talk without interrupting shouldn’t be romantic, it should
    be expected. Same goes for showing interest in his work, letting him enjoy his
    hobbies guilt free, letting him make parenting decisions without
    second-guessing, following through when you say you’ll do something etc. Over
    all, I am disappointed in this list. As a woman we are expected to wait on our
    men and things that should be the norm are considered romance.

    • Debbie

      There will never be a list that applies to everyone. The purpose of this list is ideas. These are suggestions, not musts. I am a stay at home mother but even the cook him a meal is not easy for a stay at home mom. Wear perfume…while that would be “easier” for a working mom and you may do that daily already and for a stay at home mom, why do it when your getting thrown up on all day. Relax and don’t be disappointed in someone’s suggestions. That is what they are…suggestions, ideas or like stated…something we may have not thought of. It took you more time to type up a disappointment list that it took you to accept the suggestions. Build people up, not tear them down.

    • Maegan

      I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU! This is definitely directed to stay at home mom’s. In my opinion, if you choose to stay at home and not bring in any income then you need to cater to your husband because he’s paying all the bills! I hold a full time job just like my husband in which I expect to be “romanced” just like he is. Our life is equal and I shouldn’t be expected to always cook, always clean or always take care of the children. This isn’t a woman’s job anymore, it’s an equal job for both the husband and wife.

  • Mrs Jones

    I like a lot of the suggestions but For #23 I think there are alternatives that can look sexy while still being fairly warm (e.g. skin tight leggings) I can see wearing skimpy clothing to bed on a regular basis backfiring as you either make the room/bed uncomfortable for him by heating it up too much (and drive up your heating bill, which could be a source of more friction) or you can’t sleep because you’re cold and end up tired and grumpy in the morning.

  • Calvin Gipson

    You all have valid comments. The ideas are guidelines. You don’t have to have a husband to use these tips. Considering a lot of the population is single and dating these tips can still be useful. You have to open up your minds and be willing to think outside the box.If your man is not responding to any of these tips then you might have another problem.