5 Ways to Be a Kind Mom

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What is the best mom advice you’ve ever heard? A good friend gave me some excellent advice recently. “Life will beat up your kids enough when they leave home; so while they’re with you,” she said, “build them up and make them feel loved and confident about themselves.”

Every mom can be kind; feisty moms, quiet moms, loud moms, all moms. Kindness doesn’t mean being wimpy; it means choosing our words and actions carefully, with the thought of doing good for our children in the forefront of our minds.

kind mom quoteHer advice was timely. I want my children to be gracious and humble, but  I can go too far in that direction, neglecting my role as their biggest cheerleader and fan. Here’s another bit of advice you can take with you today: If you want to be a good mom, you must be a kind mom. {Tweet This} Here are 5 ways to be a kind mom.

1. Don’t yell.

Let’s face it! When we scream at our kids, we basically send kindness blasting out the window. Yes, there is a time to yell at your children—like when the house is on fire or they forgot their backpack and you need to get their attention before they climb on the bus, but most of our communication can be conveyed just as effectively without yelling.

2. Be considerate.

Kindness is all about showing consideration to others. So when it comes to being a kind mom, we need to be considerate of our children.  That doesn’t mean that we say yes to their every whim or wait on them hand and foot. It means that we consider them and their feelings as we make decisions that will affect them. We consider where they are emotionally and respond to the needs we recognize.

3. Be loving.

The love passage so often read at weddings applies to day-to-day “mom life” too. [Tweet This] Love is kind. Love is what will motivate us to be kind when we’re exhausted, in PMS, or stressed out about finances. So instead of taking out our frustrations on our children, deal with them kindly.

4. Give a disclaimer.

There are some days when we feel like our kindness well has run completely dry. At those times, be honest with your kids.  “Kids, I am having a really bad day.  I don’t want to be mean or grouchy, and I’m going to do my best to be kind, but I wanted to warn you in case I seem a little off today.”

5. Give hugs.

It sounds simple, and even a little corny, but hugs are healthy. Not only do they actually help us physically—lower blood pressure and calmer minds—but they help us connect with our children too. So laugh about it, if you must, but do it.  My children are 10 and 8, but I’ll still say, “Okay, I need my 10-second hug.” Those hugs are like making a deposit in your “kind account.” You hug your child. You feel more loving to your child. You are kinder to your child.

Where are you on the kind mom scale? Tell us, and then take the Love Your Child Challenge.

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  • LEM

    I really needed this lately – adjusting to the new school year has been tough this time around & everyone in our house is very agitated- thank you for the reminder that kindness always counts!

    • We hope things have settled down for you. 🙂

  • Mama4

    “your family is sacred”. This simple advice helps me.put their needs and protection before anyone or anything.

    • We all need that reminder! We are the only ones who can show motherly love to our children. They might get love other places, but they only have us to be their mom. 🙂

  • workinmomma72

    This is a wonderful article. It’s a great reminder to make sure your kindness towards children doesn’t get lost in the shuffle. Keep up the good work.

    • Thanks for your nice words. You sound like a kind mom already! 🙂

  • Jackie Brass

    This is such a wonderful article and right what i needed early morning with my cuppa. I have 4 children in the ages of 10,9,4 & 2 respectively. I am a stay at home mom and sometimes have my moments and even find it hard to smile. Love these articles which is a gentle reminder of the simple things in life.

  • Susie Hart

    We can all use this reminder! Especially me! The best advice I ever got about being a mama is – don’t say no just because you can. It has served me well! My resolution is to be kinder….and (again this year) to Trust God!