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Mark MerrillMark Merrill is the founder and president of Family First, a widely respected national non-profit organization dedicated to strengthening the family. read bio
4 Ways to Give your Spouse your Freshest and Best
I don’t mind leftovers every once in a while. In fact, I like them sometimes. It just makes sense to have that leftover meatloaf instead of wasting it. Sometimes it’s just plain necessary because of financial or time constraints.
Well, sometimes leftovers are necessary in our relationships, too. If a child is sick for a few days, dad may not get all the attention from mom that he wants. If he just found out that he has to work the extra shift, she may have to understand that the romantic dinner will have to be rescheduled. You get the picture. The cares of this world—fatigue, sickness, finances, jobs—sometimes create roadblocks in relationships.
But leftovers in relationships should be the exception rather than the rule. The rule should be to give our mate our freshest and best…the first fruit of our time and energy.
So, how can you serve your husband something fresh?
- Post it.
Write “How can I serve my husband today?” on a post it note and place it on the bathroom mirror or another place that you’ll see every morning.
- Ask it.
Ask your husband, “How can I serve you today?” Sometimes it is good to know what your spouse goes through to understand how you can help serve. You can also ask him these five questions.
- List it.
Put what you can do for your spouse today on your To Do list.
- Calendar it.
Calendar specific times each week when you will do things with and for your spouse. Also, calendar times during the day to show your spouse your appreciation—a quick text, phone call or e-mail. Waiting until the last thing at night, before bed, when you are utterly exhausted is not the best option. For those times when you can actually get away, here are 8 Outside the Box Date Ideas.
Are you giving your spouse your freshest and best? Or are you giving your leftovers?
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