Stephen Covey, the author of 7 Habits To Highly Effective People, has an illustration about the priorities we place on things. Imagine you had to fit several large rocks, a bunch of pebbles and a good amount of sand into a medium sized jar. What would you put in first? You would put the rocks in first, the pebbles second, and the sand third. Otherwise, by the time you got around to putting the rocks in, they wouldn’t fit. Just like that jar has a limited amount of space, our lives have a limited amount of time and resources. We have to be intentional about who and what we devote to those two things. We have to focus on the things that matter.
So how do you know which things to focus on? It becomes a matter of personal values and priorities; you must decide which things matter most. We’ve identified 3 “biggies” that resonate with us here at iMOM.
1. Our Spiritual Lives
A relationship with God gives meaning to the meaningless, makes the joys of life sweeter, and the trials of life bearable. People who invest in their spiritual lives are even healthier, according to independent research. Prayer and communion with God is the ultimate way to relieve stress and gain clarity on the big questions we all face such as the meaning of life, death, and love.
A relationship with God gives meaning to the meaningless, makes the joys of life sweeter, and the trials of life bearable.
You can have a wonderful career, a beautiful home and a bank account that overflows, but if there’s no one to share it with, it’s pretty hollow. So when you’re faced with a choice between building stronger relationships—with your spouse, your children, even with friends—and building other things, choose the people. And remember: the time you have to engage in a daily relationship with your children is fleeting, and there are no do-overs.
3. Good Health.
When I was in my twenties, a doctor told my father he needed to stop drinking and smoking. He said he couldn’t do either. A year later he was gone. He was never able to meet my husband, who I met five years later, nor my kids. Take care of your body for the sake of your family and yourself. Your kids want you around for as long as possible. While there are some things we can’t prevent, regular exercise and healthy eating (along with kicking bad habits) can increase the chances that we’ll be able to share life and make memories with the ones we love for a long time.
Tell us! What are the three most essential things in your life?