Search
Close this search box.

Share what kind of mom you are!

Get to know other mom types!

8 Habits That Will Kill Your Sex Life

A few years ago, I started keeping a pack of Cokes under my desk. I got into the habit of popping a few cans to keep me going after lunch. Not surprisingly, I gained around 25 pounds. I’ve since made it a habit to drink eight glasses of water a day, and I take a walk to keep my energy up. I’ve lost a good amount of weight and feel healthy again.

Just like our habits affect our physical health, they can also slowly affect a relationship’s health. Most marriages start out with spouses wanting physical intimacy often. So how do you go from hot and heavy to having an unfulfilling sex life? Often, one of these 8 bad habits is to blame.

1. Laziness

Having sex is like working out. It takes energy, initiative, and sometimes planning, but your marriage will be more healthy when it’s happening regularly. Both spouses should do what they can to make it happen. You may be tired or fear being rejected, but don’t stop initiating sex.

You may be tired or fear being rejected, but don't stop initiating sex. Click To Tweet

2. Complacency

Sex can become predictable after a number of years. It’s easy to fall into a habit of doing the same old, same old. It may be time to switch things up. Change the order, get adventurous, and try new things.

3. Not Taking Care of Your Body

This is more than just exercising and eating healthy, both of which can be huge factors in impacting a married sex life. Recently, a friend told me she was having a hard time with lower libido and depression. By visiting the doctor, she learned her body wasn’t producing enough progesterone. A simple fix turned things around.

4. Lack of Communication

One of the first things to suffer from a lack of communication in a marriage is a couple’s sex life. Never stop communicating. Share your emotions, fears, and hurts. Talk about your relationship often. Talk about your sex life, what you like, and what turns you on. Talk during sex (men love that). Whatever you do, never stop communicating.

5. Lack of Sleep

These days, the only time we have to ourselves is after the kids go to bed. It’s tempting to stay up late and sleep too little. But that lack of sleep increases anxiety and possible depression. Our overall productivity drops along with a healthy libido. Make sure you and your spouse get plenty of sleep.

6. Thinking and Speaking Negatively

Thinking and especially speaking negatively about yourself or your spouse is like taking a cold shower. Be kind to him and to yourself regarding physical appearance and attractiveness. People who don’t feel good about themselves are less enthusiastic about having sex. It’s not easy to just flip a switch and love your body, but remember your husband does love it. Let that give you confidence.

7. Co-Sleeping With the Kids

In my opinion, it’s OK occasionally to have a child sleep in your room. There’s nothing wrong with a kiddo sneaking in during a thunderstorm or after a nightmare. But when it’s a habit, it can create problems for your health and the health of your marriage. Your bedroom needs to be reserved for you and your spouse.

8. Pornography

Some people have claimed that porn saves marriages, but no data supports that. What the data does support is that for every claim of marriage being “helped” by pornography, thousands of marriages and lives are destroyed by it. It is dangerous and divisive; if you or your husband are struggling, you are not alone. Do what you can to get help and break the habit.

What habits have you started that have helped your sex life?

ASK YOUR CHILD...

What do you think are some good habits to have daily? What are some bad ones?

Get daily motherhood

ideas, insight, &inspiration

to your inbox!

Search