Do you have a sneaking suspicion that you have a nitpick problem in your marriage? Nitpicking is a close cousin of nagging, and, like nagging, it is not a good habit.
So how can you tell if you are a nitpicker?
1. It’s a numbers game. How often do you correct your husband or point out his minor flaws, mistakes, or annoying habits? More than once a day? Whew! Uh-oh, you might be a nitpicker. So, try to go an entire day without correcting or criticizing. You can do it!
2. You’ve been called on it. Has your husband told you that you get on him too much for the little things? Does he get defensive when you point out his shortcomings? Maybe it’s because you’re correcting him too much. Maybe it’s because you are a nitpicker.
So, if your husband does say that you nag or nitpick too much, take it to heart without getting upset. Really look at yourself and your actions. If he’s right, apologize and tell him you’ll try to nitpick less.
3. Your focus is set on nitpick. Okay, now it’s time to do some self-examination. Today, keep track of how often you nitpick, not just with your husband, but throughout the day. Do you get annoyed at the driver next to you, the mom you run into at the grocery store, or the way this, that, or the other is just not right? Might be time for an attitude adjustment.
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