In the day-to-day trenches of parenting, it’s hard to measure whether we’re getting through to our kids. They’re surrounded by so many other voices — friends, teachers, peers and the insta-famous. Those voices are loud and usually in opposition to our voice.
So what’s the power of moms? Does a mom’s influence stand out amidst the competition? A recent study of Gen Z in Christian households shows moms have the primary influence on their tweens and teens in several key areas. These 3 will encourage you the most (and there’s one where we have room to improve).
The study asked Gen Zers to measure the impact of siblings, other family members, friends and non-relatives. Gen Z includes kids born between 1996 and 2010. Here are three areas moms scored high.
1.Your influence in time.
Tweens and teens said they spend more time eating, watching television and movies, and praying with their mom than any other family member. Moms also scored high for having fun with their teens, second only to siblings. And moms were the family member teens text and call on the phone most.
Despite the uptick in busy schedules and media, the power of moms to impact their children through meals and spending time together continues. Those are both great times to start conversations and listen to what’s on our children’s hearts.
2. Your influence as adviser.
Moms shine as the primary source of support for their tweens and teens. Gen Z generation said they go to their moms more than friends or any other family member for encouragement, sympathy and advice. When they have something that bothers them, they go to their moms first and they overwhelming rely on their moms when going through a personal crisis.
Gen Z generation said they go to their moms more than friends or any other family member for encouragement, sympathy and advice
3. Your influence in shaping their faith.
In areas of faith, moms are the primary influence for their teens. Nearly 100% of teens active in their faith say their moms are their chief encourager to go to church and their main source of all encouragement.
Generation Z notes their moms set the values in their home, pray with them, set an example and talk with them about the Bible. And this influence isn’t only while children are at home. A mom’s primary impact on her child’s spiritual formation continues after children are launched from home into young adulthood.
We do have room to improve.
The one area of support where teens go to friends more than their moms? When they talk about sex. This is one area we can be more intentional with our kids. Here are 5 questions for having the talk with your kids.
Where do you see your influence making the biggest impact for your children?