It was happening again. There I was, walking through the door after a long day at work, trying my best to enjoy my little boys and their laughs, giggles, and antics. But frustration rose within me instead: When are you going to start living the life of your dreams? Why do other moms get to do fun stuff while you work a job you can’t stand? What if you miss the best part of their childhood and never have the life you want? It was something that happened far too often until one day, my entire life shifted. I remember that day so vividly.
An unexpected call came asking if I was interested in a small promotion—a risky one, but one that would help me take a baby step toward the life of my dreams. I had been studying, praying, and preparing for this, though, so, I took it. Then, a few years later, I took another one and another one until suddenly, I realized I no longer thought it was too late to live the life of my dreams. Instead, I started living it. I want you to know it’s not too late for you, either. Here are 4 tried and true strategies to propel you out of your rut, off the negative thought reel, and into forward motion.
1. Invest in your family.
Instead of viewing your current job or daily activities as “dead-end” or “a waste of time,” see them as investing in your family’s future. Feel confident that you are spending your time, attention, talent, and money in ways that honor and help your family. If a change is needed, make small steps daily until it feels right.
2. Invest in yourself.
Take time daily for personal growth through prayer, books, journaling, or even classes and programs (there are plenty online and some are free). Set a goal for your personal growth and go after it as if it were the ticket to the life of your dreams—because it is. Build a plan for your own development, do the work, and watch yourself grow. And don’t be afraid to step out of what you normally do to find new resources, make new connections, and grow in new ways.
3. Draw inspiration from those who have gone before you.
Inspiration is critical to making this new positive way of life last, so be sure you’re reading about those who have done something similar to what you want to do (or even beyond what you can imagine). Find a blog that inspires you and follow that person’s ongoing journey. Read biographies about women who overcame the odds and changed their lives, their families, or even the world. Dig into biblical or historical figures who inspire you.
4. Get specific.
Write down your dream in detail. How much money, time, attention, and talent will it cost? What part of your dream can you accomplish right now? What baby step can you take this week? What are you willing to sacrifice? What’s a nonnegotiable? Seeing your dreams on paper is the first step to making them happen.
Then, repeat these strategies regularly and watch your bitterness melt in the face of a major mindset shift. Feel hope grow.
It truly is never too late to have the life of your dreams. Replacing the When are you…? and Why don’t you…? questions with these small, simple shifts is one powerful step in the right direction. It might just change everything.
What is standing in the way of the life of your dreams?