Why iMOM?

Before we got married, Mark and I went to premarital counseling.  At the first appointment the counselor gave us a test. At the second appointment we reviewed our results.  Before he started the review the counselor asked us, “So, do you two have a date?” We answered, “Yes, on March 4th.” We were 6 months away.  He then said something that should have alarmed me more than it did. He said, “Would you consider changing it?”  The counselor then explained that Mark and I were very different in our personalities and in our expectations for our relationship. Unfair expectations in marriage are not uncommon, which was a relief to me at the time. But we must take the warning seriously.  If you have unfair expectations, they can lead to discontent. I still have to fight unfair expectations about Mark and marriage. Here are 5 that are at the top of my list. I expect that you should get me. My friends got me, so Mark should too, right? Mark really didn’t get me. He is still not my go-to when I need someone to get me. He is a concrete, factual processor. I am intuitive and broad and so our brains […]