Marriage Problems

10 Ways to Save a Struggling Marriage


Ways to save a struggling marriage

Many good marriages slip into crisis because we don’t or won’t believe how much work it takes to keep relationships humming at optimal levels. Another reason is a simple failure in imagination.

But, if successful courting requires commitment, hard work, and imagination to pull off… then why does it surprise us when neglect hurts relationships after we walk down the aisle? He wouldn’t have married you if you took him for granted – why risk everything now?

There are many good strategies if we want to restore an ailing or “under the weather” marriage. iMOM suggests the following 10 strategies for women who want to get the ball rolling to save their struggling marriage:

1. Pray for your spouse. Chances are, you launched your marriage with both promises and prayers. Pray for your husband and ask for guidance as you pledge to make the kind of effort that simply won’t float without turning to God every day.

2. Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships. Some of those negative patterns involved friends. Hook up with a faith community where marriage is valued and there’s widespread support for making yours work.

3. Choose to love. Love may have come easy when it was brand new. But love over the long haul is as much a choice as it is an emotion. Choice is an act of maturity and it has a much better track record than emotion left to make its way on its own.

4. Act as if your spouse’s happiness is more important than your own. Putting your husband first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity and affection. It can also lead to kissing!

5. Put the relationship ahead of everything, including your children. It’s unfortunate, but time has a way of eating away at our priorities. “You’re the most important thing in my life” gives way to “My work…the family business…the children…my aging parents…even shopping, gossiping or drinking…” Marriages don’t work well when our partner plays second fiddle to anything – even the children. It’s a fact; the happiest kids are those with parents who love one another best.

6. Start over from scratch. Ask him out. Make sure you remember why you did the first time and build from there. When did you last talk for hours, hold hands at a movie, or smooch behind a plant in the mall? Get silly about one another. If you don’t feel like it, do it anyway; then you’ll remember why.

7. Stop taking one another for granted. Say “thank you” for that cup of coffee. Celebrate obscure anniversaries. Tell him how much it means to you that he cooks a great meal, or vice versa. Ask him out. Clean his car. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship.

8. Get counseling. You say you can’t afford it? Believe us, it’s cheaper than divorce! Most counseling simply involves a few sessions to get the communication flowing again. For girls, a willingness to talk in that context sends a huge positive message to your spouse.

9. Follow the counseling with an action plan. Just like a personal fitness program, counseling comes with homework and an action plan over time. Draw up the plan, ask friends you trust to help hold you accountable, and then follow through. When both spouses take responsibility, anything is possible.

10. Change the patterns. Do you always come home angry? If so, stop the car a block away and pray about it first. Does he always nag you when you leave dirty dishes in the sink? Try getting changed in a different room and initiate a new reflex. Do you always fight about discipline? Try agreeing with his decisions and supporting him 100%. You may find the kids act better because you’re not fighting.

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  • Anonymous

    My ex and me were together for Two years and 4 months, we were very happy to be husband and wife, last month we went to california and stayed with his family, after we got back he started acting distant, then he started hanging out with a girl, and kept sneaking off to go hangout with her, so i got upset, i could not endure, i tried to do everything to please him but it got worst, one day he left the house and never came back, i tried reaching him but no way i could reach him, because of the heart break he has put me into, i went into search of a real spell caster but I was scammed several times, but I never relented in my search because I want a happy life with my boyfriend, when i saw testimony about spell caster Mr Robinson buckler on the internet, so i contacted him and to my greatest surprise robinsonbuckler@yahoo. com restored my relationship, my boyfriend came back to me, i took him back and I am now settled with my him by the magic power of Mr Robinson buckler spell

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  • Stacey ochao

    I was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Italy for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love her only. So when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Italy to see that other woman. so I and my kids were now so frustrated and I was just staying with my mum and I was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, I and my kids were so confuse and I was searching for a way to get my husband back home because I love and cherish him so much so one day as I was browsing on my computer I saw a testimony about this spell caster DR AISABU testimonies shared on the internet by a lady and it impress me so much I also think of give it a try. At first I was scared but when I think of what me and my kids are passing through so I contact him and he told me to stay calm for just 24 hours that my husband shall come back to me and to my best surprise I received a call from my husband on the second day asking after the kids and I called DR. AISABU and he said your problems are solved my child. so this was how I get my family back after a long stress of brake up by an evil lady so with all this help from DR AISABU, I want you all on this forum to join me to say a huge thanks to DR AISABU, and I will also advice for any one in such or similar problems or any kind of problems should also contact him his email is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com) he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life. Once again his email address is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com)

  • Leonids Balodis

    After reading BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com about Metodo helping her cast a spell to fix her relationship, i was hmm.. will say considering doing the same thing cos my life was a total mess. On one hand my girlfriend now soon to be fiancé parent did not want me to be their son-in-law cos i did not belong to the upper class community and on the other hand, i moved from Latvia where my life and job was to be with my soon to be fiancé in Azerbaijan. I had no home there but just the apartment we both bought together. If am not mistaking her father is a famous lawyer to almost every rich person in Azerbaijan. She was going to help me get a job in her father law firm before she broke up with me because she was going to marry one of her father client. All this was before i contacted Metodo to see what he could for me. As i said her father was against our relationship and she was going to marry a 53 years old man for his money. She has always loved materials things but i never thought she would pick money over me. We were still see each other not as lover but secret lovers. I loved her too much to be sharing with a disgusting old man because he was rich. I don’t mean to disrespect any elderly person i just don’t like it when rich old or young persons try to take or take someone you hold dearly to your heart cos they have the money to do so. In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength. She didn’t want to marry me but she wanted to be my lover in secret. I knew she loved me dearly but she was also in love with all the money and assets the man had. she knew i was content with what i had and what she had but she wanted to be so rich like adding riches ti what she already had. The date of the wedding was already set when i realized that if i don’t do something to stop the wedding i would lost her forever. It happened that i came across BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com as i search the INTERNET on how to make a woman realize living without you will be a great mistake where she wrote how metodo the spell caster helped her fix her marriage and how she came face to face in contact with Metodo and also how real and awesome he is. I just felt compelled to also contact him for help maybe i was not thinking clearly or i felt it was my only chance to make sure she soon to be fiancé doesn’t marry anyone else but me or maybe i felt both ways. I know something was clear to me that whatever action i took was my last chance to win her back. There and then i contacted Metodo cos i had no money to travel all the way to Chad. I just trusted BRUNELDA NATO testimony that he really exist and can help me solve my problem. It turned out that BRUNELDA NATO was right. Now i can also truthfully tell you that Metodo is really something out of ordinary he is the greatest spell caster you can ever meet. He sent me some items that he told me to use to pray with within the 7 days he was casting the spell i asked him to help me cast with the materials he told me to provide to for the spell casting. Within those seven days of incantation pray my soon to be fiancé developed something i don’t know what to call in her head that made the love she had for me resurface i say resurface love because she became that girl i fell in love with back in Latvia she told me she was going to call of the wedding but was scared what would happen to her father relationship with the man. But all those worried faded when Metodo sent the spell that looked like a powdery substances with instruction on how to make it effective. She called off the wedding and nothing happened it was like no one cared anymore not the man or her parent almost like it idea was yipped of their head. Whether anyone believe me or not it does really matter the only thing i care to say here is that Metodo is the ultimate spell caster anyone can ever ask for help. Am going to leave his mail in case Metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

  • cannon shelly

    Am Cannon shelly from Usa, i am sharing about my experience and testimony online in search of a spell caster that will restore my marriage and make me live a happy life. I was introduced to a spell caster by my neighbor and i contact him. to my greatest surprise i never though that there was going to be a real spell caster for me but i was amazed when i met a real one in the person of His Majesty,HIGH PRIEST OZIGIDIDON who helped in in bring back my man and making me have a happy marriage and home and also help in restoring back my job and life and sincerely it is to numerous for me to mention, i just can’t thank him more that enough for all he has done but i want to sincerely thank him for restoring my hope that there are still real spell casters out there. Indeed he is so real and true to his job. i am glad i met him and i will hold him in high esteem till i leave this earth. Your HIGHNESS i will never let you go you are my foundation.High priest can be gotten on highpriestozigididon@gmail.com. i know when you contact him and he worked for you, you will definitely come back to thank me. high priest is so great and powerful.. i have lost the adjective to classify him.Thanks

  • doris carter

    OMG!! This is certainly a shocking and a genuine Testimony..I visited a forum here on the internet on the 20TH OF JUNE 2014, And i saw a marvelous testimony of this powerful and great spell caster called DR Ohehe on the forum..I never believed it, because i never heard nor learnt anything about magic before.. Not a soul would have been able to influence me about magical spells, not until DR Ohehe did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my spouse back to me in the same 24 hours just as i read on the internet..i was truly astonished and shocked when my husband knelt down begging for forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am really short of expressions, and i don’t know how much to convey my appreciation to you DR Ohehe you are a God sent to me and my entire family.. And now i am a joyful woman once again.. here is his website: Email:(ohehenemenspelltemple001@gmail.com) Mrs Miller Moore from England City

  • anonymous5555

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    I LOST ABOUT $3,000 DOLLARS TO THESE FAKE IMPOSTERS CLAIMING TO BE A REAL SPELL CASTERS, BECAUSE I WAS DESPERATELY IN NEED OF HELP TO BRING BACK MY BELOVED HUSBAND BUT I GOT NOTHING.
    I WAS EMOTIONALLY DOWN FOR A VERY LONG TIME. THANKS TO THE SPELL CASTER CALLED DR OBA WHOM I MET ONLINE AFTER MY FRIEND TRACY TOLD ME ABOUT HOW HE HELPED HER.
    SO I GAVE HIM ALL TRUST, AND GUESS WHAT? HE TRANSFORMED MY FAMILY BACK IN JUST THREE DAYS, MY HUSBAND CAME BACK! THAT IS NOT THE END OF WHAT THE GREAT
    SPELL CASTER (DR OBA) DID FOR ME. I ALSO TOLD HIM I COULD N’T GIVE BIRTH TO A CHILD AND HE PREPARED A SPELL FOR ME, MY HUSBAND SLEPT WITH ME FOR ALMOST
    A MONTH THEN ON THE SECOND WEEK I MISSED MY PERIOD AND I WENT TO A LOCAL HOSPITAL AND THE DOCTOR SAID I AM PREGNANT, I WAS SO MAD I COULD NOT
    CONTROL MY EMOTIONS IN THE CLINIC. THAT’S HOW I GOT MY FAMILY AND LOVE BACK. IF YOU ARE STILL IN THIS CONDITION PLEASE WASTE NO TIME TO CONTACT HIM NOW WITH:
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  • Jordan Mark

    Hello thanks to prophet ekpen who help me to get my lover who left me with tears in my eye,i so much love this girl that i will do anything for to get her back,for some month now i have not set my eye on her,but all thanks to prophet ekpen who help me to get back my lover within 24hour i do not know how to thanks this great man for is help,if you need is help contact him on email prophetekpen@gmail.com or call this cell number +2349038409325
    Name:Anthony smith Country:USA

  • Jordan Mark

    My name is Adams Bella, i live and work in Oxfordshire, UK. My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr.charles of Ultimate spell cast which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and also spell to get a good paid job so on. He is amazing, i also come across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Vera, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email.After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever.Dr.charles you are a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on (hivspelltemple@gmail.com

  • Jordan Mark

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    Many people still question whether love spells work or not, permanent or effective? This can be based from past experiences where they tried some spell casters but
    not fully satisfied with their results or the love spells worked for just a short period and sometimes even never saw any results. To avoid such situations you
    have to be careful with spell casters you approach, some are limited with certain Spiritual powers to cast good love spells to help people in their relationships
    or marriages. Many good love spell casters are out there in the world (Africa, Asia and so on) Yes, love spells really work, whether you are in a situation where
    you want to bring back your lost lover(lost lover spell),you want to get married to someone in a relationship(marriage spells),to increase love in your relationship
    (love affection spells) and many other related love spells, you will get help. It does not matter where you are or where your partner is, you don’t have to be
    unhappy of a situation you can solve, it is all about finding a good love spell caster to change your email: Lovespelltemple@yahoo.com

  • jassica

    Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edwin Wallace i live in United State,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.(kemespelltemple@gmail.com }, So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {kemespelltemple@gmail.com },i f you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to “bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr KUME for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(kemespelltemple@gmail.com }, Thanks..

  • Richard Sophia

    My name is Richard Sophia, i think its a good thing to share this
    wonderful testimony because am so happy now, i have been married for
    four years, with two kids, and a lovely husband, i was having a sweet
    family, until when things started getting sour, my husband started
    coming home late at night, started ignoring my feelings and needs, i
    later found out that he was having an affair with with another woman,
    this was tearing my family apart as my children was been affected a lot,
    i didn’t know what to do, my heart was so saddened, until i came in
    contact with one Dr. OGBIDI, a spell caster, on a marriage website, i
    told him about my problems in my family, he told me he is going to fix
    my family and bring back my husband if only i could provide what will
    be needed, i did as he asked and he fixed my family for me and my
    husband broke up with the lady and came back home and asked for forgiveness,
    am so so happy today, i cant hide this but share the good news,
    CONTACT HIM TODAY THROUGH HIS EMAIL ADDRESS:DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@GMAIL.COM ….OR… DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@YAHOO.COM
    he can help you with the following……..1. Get YOUR boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife
    back..2. Heal all kinds of sickness.. 3.Fix barrenness……4.
    Wealth/Riches….5. Cancel a divorce order 6. Fix addition to drugs and
    many more…..contact him today: DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@GMAIL.COM OR… DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@YAHOO.COM

  • Richard Sophia

    My name is Richard Sophia, i think its a good thing to share this
    wonderful testimony because am so happy now, i have been married for
    four years, with two kids, and a lovely husband, i was having a sweet
    family, until when things started getting sour, my husband started
    coming home late at night, started ignoring my feelings and needs, i
    later found out that he was having an affair with with another woman,
    this was tearing my family apart as my children was been affected a lot,
    i didn’t know what to do, my heart was so saddened, until i came in
    contact with one Dr. OGBIDI, a spell caster, on a marriage website, i
    told him about my problems in my family, he told me he is going to fix
    my family and bring back my husband if only i could provide what will
    be needed, i did as he asked and he fixed my family for me and my
    husband broke up with the lady and came back home and asked for forgiveness,
    am so so happy today, i cant hide this but share the good news,
    YOU CAN
    CONTACT HIM TODAY THROUGH HIS EMAIL ADDRESS:DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@GMAIL.COM ….OR… DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@YAHOO.COM
    he can help you with the following……..1. Get YOUR boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife
    back..2. Heal all kinds of sickness.. 3.Fix barrenness……4.
    Wealth/Riches….5. Cancel a divorce order 6. Fix addition to drugs and
    many more…..contact him today: DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@GMAIL.COM OR… DROGBIDISOLUTIONHOME@YAHOO.COM

  • Melisa Hellen

    I’ve been married for 3 years and since then I’ve been trying to get pregnant and I’ve been to several specialist and all told me that everything is fine but with no luck of having a baby until i finally met Prophet suleman online who help to cast a pregnancy spell that make me get pregnant within 28days and so happy now, finally am a woman to be few months from now contact him on Prophetsuleman@gmail.com good luck







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