The check-up works best when both partners take it, and then compare answers. The goal is to pinpoint problem areas, praise positive areas, and increase communication. Try to take this check-up once a year. Save your answers and compare them from year to year.
Rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being best.
What is your marriage’s weak spot?
What is its strong point?
On a scale of 1 – 10, how committed are you to making your marriage last?
Do you and your spouse share enough fun times? When was the last time you and your spouse laughed together?
Do you and your spouse spend enough time alone with each other? When was the last time you spent an evening alone together, in a social way?
Would you like more compliments from your spouse/ When was the last time you complimented your spouse?
On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being best, how would you rate your sexual interaction? Do you feel comfortable talking with your spouse about how to improve this area?
How do you feel when your spouse criticizes you?
When was the last time you criticized your spouse?
Would your spouse rather have a back rub, a quiet hour to read, a home-cooked meal, or an afternoon at the movies?
Is your spouse your best friend? Why or why not?
Are you willing to change to make your marriage better?
Fill in the blank:
The thing I like most about my spouse is her/his _________.
I wish we had more time to _________.
I love it when my spouse ___________.
The thing my spouse understands least about me is _________.
The thing I miss most from our dating days is _________.
The thing we argue about the most is ____________.
If I could change two things about myself, to better please my spouse, it would be _________ and __________.
Taken with permission from AllProDad.com.
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