My husband travels for work several times a month, normally on weekends. I realized something on his last trip. When he is gone I get laser-focused on cleaning the house because having a clean house makes me feel more relaxed. However, as Sunday evening came this past weekend, my daughter walked into the kitchen and I asked her what she’d been doing. That’s when I realized that I hadn’t spent any time with my kids the whole weekend. I was so concerned with cleaning the house I missed an opportunity to fill their need to feel loved.
Too often we let the menial, everyday tasks we’re wrapped up in seem more important than the most important things – our family. It’s crucial that our family knows they’re more important to us than our job or our lengthy to-do lists. Let’s keep our priorities in order…and show our loved ones that they’re number one and sometimes that means having a less than clean house. Here are some simple ways we can show our children, and husband if you are married, how much we care about them.
Too often we let the menial, everyday tasks we’re wrapped up in seem more important than the most important things – our family.
1. Facial Expressions and Vocal Tones
Your facial expressions or tone of voice can send powerful messages of love. When you pick your kids up from school, let them know from your body language and verbal inflections how much you missed them and how much they mean to you. Express your excitement in seeing them, and your interest in what they did that day. Show that you’re happy to be with them again by hugging them, smiling at them, and using a joyful tone of voice.
2. Do Something Special
Do something special for them that you know they will appreciate and that shows how well you know them. Fix your son’s favorite dessert or offer to play your daughter’s favorite game. If your child loves reading, ask them to accompany you on a trip to the library. If you are married, give your husband a foot massage or just sit and watch the football game with him when he gets home from work. You’ll be surprised how rewarding these small acts of selflessness can be.
3. Have One-on-One Time
Make sure you have some one-on-one time with each of your family members. It’s important that your kids know that they’re individually special to you. You have separate relationships with each of them, which require separate time and specialized attention. Group family activities are great, but make sure that’s not the only kind of time you spend with your family members!
Tell us! How do you make your kids feel loved?