I just heard someone say if you don’t like sitting down, you’ll love parenting a toddler. That really does sum up these years. They are exhausting! Toddlers’ little legs want to go, go, go all the time. And at this point in their development, that’s normal. So for the tired mom who is right in the middle of raising a toddler, I want to reassure you, this is just a season. It doesn’t last forever.
Each phase of parenting is an adventure and like any adventure, you need to know what to pack for the journey. Some things will just weigh you down or make the trip more challenging. Here are 3 things toddlers need—and 3 they don’t.
3 Toddler Needs
1. Love, Not Drugs
Your toddler will be grown before you know it—really! So cuddle, kiss, and hug him as much as you can. Your child is your world, so lavish love on him with your words and your actions.
And if your child is a typical active toddler, remember that love in the form of playing with your child, giving him an outlet for his energy, and accepting that toddlerhood is a stage of go, go, go is the answer—not medication to tamp down his natural energy.
2. Attention
Sometimes you’ll need a break, so take it. But when you’re with your child, be present. When you’re on a walk with her, put your phone away. When she wants to play with you, set aside your chores until later. At bedtime, don’t rush off to do the dishes. Give her your full attention.
3. Patience
Toddlers can tug at your heartstrings, but they can also try your patience. Know that you will have moments when you’re frustrated with your little guy. But also remember that he is barely out of babyhood. He’ll need plenty of opportunities to learn a lesson. He’ll get cranky when he’s tired. He’s not a little adult; he’s a toddler. Need help? Here’s How to Love Your Child With Patience.
3 Things to Avoid
1. Harshness
Yes, you’ll come close to losing it with your child. Yes, you’ll want to say, “I just told you not to do that!” But whatever your frustration level, you can always choose to be kind in your firmness. If you feel like you’re going to lose it with your toddler, leave the room, or close your eyes and pray. Or, imagine that someone is there watching the way you handle your child.
2. Too Much Screen Time
I know it’s tough for you, Mom. You hear that educational shows and apps are good for your toddler. You see that playing with your phone or iPad calms him down. But remember, the American Academy of Pediatrics says children 2 and younger should have no screen time. Beyond that, older toddlers should have no more than an hour a day. Trust me; your child will enjoy other things. Go with screen time alternatives or get on the floor and play with him.
3. Too Much Pressure
You really don’t have to start your toddler in dance, soccer, or reading lessons. There is plenty of time for that. Again, remind yourself that your toddler has years and years to grow and learn. Embrace the season you’re in.
What do you think toddlers need the most?
