Should I have an affair? Hopefully, most of us would answer an emphatic No to this question. Not because we’re superhuman and never tempted, but because we know the importance of our marriage commitment. We also understand how our having an affair would harm the lives of our children. But even with the most honorable intentions of staying true to our husband, we might unknowingly be sliding closer to some of the behaviors that could lead us to an affair.
Even with the most honorable intentions of staying true to our husband, we might unknowingly be sliding closer to some of the behaviors that could lead us to an affair.
In his book Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It, Jerry Jenkins warns against certain attitudes and situations that may put you at risk for infidelity. Here are the 7 risk factors for having an affair you need to be aware of.
Some of the risk factors and warning signs include the following:
- Becoming so busy that you spend very little time with your husband and family.
- Having an attitude that you deserve more attention than you are getting at home.
- Letting the romance fade in your marriage.
- Using your attractiveness or personality to get attention from the opposite sex.
- Fantasizing about having an affair.
- Feeling sorry for yourself.
- Someone other than your husband keeps flattering you and telling you how wonderful you are.
If you find yourself in any of the above situations, do whatever you can to change them. Here’s how:
- Make spending time with your husband a priority
- Keep your expectations about your husband and marriage realistic
- Look at these 15 Ways to Protect Your Marriage
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This article is based on the book Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry Jenkins.