I just returned from a friend’s surprise birthday celebration weekend. And, oh, what a celebration it was. Her husband flew in eight of her high school and college friends. He arranged for every meal, drink, and snack, and even chartered a boat ride on the bay. He’s just a really, really thoughtful, giving, and all-around nice guy. (And she’s pretty awesome too!)
The husbands all joked that our host was making them look bad. But the other wives and I realized that although our husbands might not plan unforgettable weekends for us, the answer to “Does my husband love me?” is still a resounding yes. If you’ve asked yourself that question, see if any of these ways to notice your husband’s love can help you answer “yes” too.
1. He’s cool in a crisis.
One of the ladies at the birthday weekend shared how her husband had come to her rescue in a crisis. She had a 4-week old, was nursing, and was a bridesmaid. She became engorged and started leaking right before she was supposed to walk down the aisle. Her husband quickly found some ACE bandages and wrapped her up tight. When she kept leaking, he grabbed two handkerchiefs and solved that problem, too. After all of that, she said a groomsman hit on her as he stared at her chest. “You don’t want any part of this!” she laughed. “My husband’s rescue might not sound romantic,” she told us, “but he did it all out of love.”
2. He nails the little things.
Another way husbands show love is by doing the little things. His wife loves croissants from a popular bakery, so he waits in line for 45 minutes to get her one. He knows she hates the smell of eggs, so he cooks breakfast when the kids want them. And, when the toilet backs up, he’s the one to work that plunger. He may not plan extravaganzas, but he shows love in a thousand little ways.
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3. He’s steady, steady, steady.
When we were waiting to hear if our daughter’s thyroid mass was cancerous or benign, my husband met with the doctor while I tried not to throw up. When I get scattered before a party at our house, he’s the one who calmly asks what he can do to help. And when I stress when there’s a hurricane warning, he calmly lays out the criteria for staying or evacuating. Does my husband bring me breakfast in bed? No. Does my husband love me? Yes!
4. He’s an all-star team player.
Is there a parent on the planet who actually wants to go to Chuck E. Cheese? Uh, I don’t think so. But if your husband steps up when the kids are invited to parties there, put a bow on it because that’s a gift of love. So is taking your bedtime reading shift when you have a headache, getting up early with the kids when you’ve had a rough night’s sleep, and doing the morning school run when you’re running late to work. If he’s a “got your back” teammate in life, you, also, can answer the question “Does my husband love me?” with a fist pump—yes!
There may come a day when your husband does something extravagant to show that he loves you, but more than likely, he’s already showing you how he feels. For our marriages to thrive, we have to love and appreciate our husbands for who they are. But if you really want to know if your husband loves you, ask him. Let him recount the ways and answer the question once and for all.
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