Ladies, do you ever wish you knew what your husband was thinking? Husbands and wives can’t read each other’s minds, but here’s a peek into one man’s heart. Hopefully, he will help you understand your husband’s a little better!
I have no doubt that my wife loves me. But her day-to-day ways of expressing that love are not always what I want or need.
Over the years, I’ve learned that there is a wide mental and emotional gap between men and women—that’s no secret. Every day, marriage is an attempt to bridge the gap, to overcome our differences, and to be able to experience joy in life together. So to help you and your spouse practically bridge the gap, here are 5 things husbands wish wives knew.
1. We desire validation.
Much of what I do, I do for my wife. Because I want her validation. I want to hear her say, “You’re the man!” When we do something well, we want you to take notice and affirm us. We want our wives to be our number one source of validation.
2. We desire respect.
We want you to respect our judgment. A man needs his wife to value and trust his opinions and decisions, even if they prove to be wrong sometimes. That means not constantly questioning his knowledge with a “Why do you say that?” or challenging his decisions by asking, “Why don’t you just stop and get directions?” We also want you to respect our abilities. A man doesn’t want to hear something like, “You’re not a handyman; I’ll call the plumber” or “Sports isn’t your thing. I’ll ask John to teach him how to throw the football.” A guy doesn’t want to be shot down before he even gives it a chance.
3. We desire conciseness.
Communication is a huge issue between husbands and wives. I often wish that my wife, Susan, would simply give me the bottom line. Even though Susan knows this, she still sometimes gives all the background, tells me the stories, and explains details. Even though I need to listen to her express herself, I really just want her to be clear and concise with what she wants me to do.
4. We desire forgiveness.
All husbands mess up. Most of the time it is not intentional. When we ask for forgiveness, we want you to grant us forgiveness and not hold a grudge against us and continue to bring up our historical mistakes. There is freedom in forgiveness.
5. We desire support.
Husbands and wives were designed to complete each other, not to compete with each other. We need to know that our wives are on our team. That they really want to help and support us. That they’ve got our backs all the time. When we have to make a tough decision, when we lose a job, when we’re struggling—we need to know our wives are with us all the way.
Husbands and wives were designed to complete each other, not to compete with each other.
Wives, what do you think your husband wants you to know about him?