When I was young I took golf lessons. There were many times I would get frustrated because I couldn’t figure out why my shot would be perfect one moment and the next would be terrible. Finally, the woman giving me my lessons narrowed it down to three things. She said, keep your balance in the center, your left arm straight, and your eye on the ball. She told me if I hit a bad shot then it was probably one of those three things that went wrong. It worked and I’ve remembered the lesson ever since.
Good parenting can be the same way. We do it well one moment and then two minutes later it’s a different story. Sometimes we can boil down good parenting to just a few things. Here are 4 C’s of good parenting.
A good mom is confident in her ability to “be the mom.” When you parent your children, you want them to feel secure in your abilities to make good decisions for them. It’s not that you need to appear perfect, but you do want to take charge so your children know they can depend on you. Plus, all moms know how children push back and test our limits. If you stand firm, confidently, you help your children learn how to live within boundaries.
When you lose it, you pretty much leave the land of “good parenting.” When you parent from a place of anger, lost temper, or constant screaming, you lose your effectiveness. When you stay calm, you can think more clearly and make good decisions. And when you’re calm, your children are more likely to stay calm too.
A wishy-washy mom isn’t helping herself or her children. Sure, you need to adjust once in a while, but you should stick to your well thought out plans when it comes to discipline and other expectations you have for your children. Of course, consistency doesn’t mean you treat all of your children the same. But, you are consistent in how you deal with each child individually.
Your kids have to know you care. That goes beyond loving your children. It means that you take an active interest in them as people. A good mom will show it by listening to her children, treating them kindly, and taking the time to do the little things that go further than just meeting their basic needs.
Tell us! What ways have you implemented the 4 c’s of parenting into your life?