You know that feeling you get when you get dressed in something decidedly feminine and you can feel your husband’s eyes do a double take? When he responds to your femininity by treating you like someone really special—way more special than all the other women in the world? It can get the butterflies fluttering again! Your husband gets the same charge out of having you recognize and appreciate his masculinity, notice his sex appeal, and tell him about it. You’ll both be winners if you learn how to make your husband feel like a man!
In this post-women’s lib world, we sometimes forget the value of playing up what makes us different. Sure, we ladies can run the boardroom and the carpool with equal aplomb, but only your man has strong, broad shoulders to put your head on and melts you when he walks through the house in the morning in a sharp suit and smelling all aftershave-y. Or maybe it’s the way he looks with a little five o’clock shadow and his rugged, outdoorsy clothes on. All those things that made you want him in the beginning are still there, girl! Here’s how to celebrate your manly-man and make your marriage even better.
1. Contrast is everything.
One way to make your husband feel like a man is to act like a woman. It’s easy in the grind of everyday life to go for the jeans and sweats a lot. But when you make the effort to play up your femininity, it brings back into focus for both of you that you’re very much a woman and he’s very much a man. So even in your casual attire, look for things that flatter your shape and remind him that you’re not just one of the guys.
2. Recognize his physical strength.
We know that not every guy is a jock or a powerlifter. But even the average fellow is a little stronger than the average woman. When you need his help to move the sofa, tell him how nice it is to have someone strong around the house. If you’re feeling extra flirty, give those biceps of his a squeeze and throw in a wink. He may roll his eyes, but he’ll love it.
3. Let him lead.
Men are hardwired to want to lead and protect. So get out of your husband’s way sometimes and let him do it! Ask him about things you don’t understand as well as he does—it could be something as benign as football or as important as financial planning—and really listen. (And yes, we understand that there are some things you’re the expert on. But that’s not the point.) Thank him for the knowledge and the skills he brings to the table in your family.
4. When he looks good, tell him!
Most of us have a favorite “look” for our husband. It might be his sharpest suit or that rugged look he gets after working hard or playing hard outdoors. Whatever it is that turns your head, let him know you love it.
It’s as simple as that, girls. We hear from our men friends all the time that they want their wives to desire them physically and sexually. We tend to be pretty good at communicating that we’re attracted when we’re dating or newly married—and then we forget how to flirt! It’s the playful touching, the hug that lingers just a bit longer than necessary, the wink. Get a little touchy under the table at dinner or at the movies. Snuggle up close on the sofa. Nothing in the world will make your husband feel more like a man than knowing that you still want him. Period. Check out these 41 Ways to Romance Your Husband for some inspiration!
6. Teach your kids to admire him.
Point out to your children that Daddy has traits that you really appreciate and they should too! Celebrate his masculinity in their presence, brag on his strength, talk about how he makes you feel safe and protected. He will love it and the kids will too.
Want to hear more tips from a man’s point of view? Check out Dr. Greg Smalley’s How to Treat Your Husband Like a Man: 10 Ways.
Dana Hall McCain writes about marriage, parenting, faith and wellness. She is a mom of two, and has been married to a wonderful guy for over 18 years.